Reclaiming Femininity

Written By Anonymous

As a habit I try not to watch too much television. I'm sure I probably watch more than I should, but I like to think I balance out the negative effects by questioning everything I see or hear while watching. I suppose I do it to maintain my general cynicism about what the media are attempting to spoon feed me. Simply put, it's difficult to become inspired or encouraged by what's on TV. However, I experienced the impossible recently in the form of a stand-up show by Bill Burr called "Let it Go". I've always loved Bill Burr's comedy. He's cynical, sarcastic, and a genuinely good laugh. He's also not a big fan of typical female garbage behavior. I saw him live once and he was hilarious, but this televised routine was truly a masterpiece.

Bill mentioned how his girlfriend watches Oprah from time to time, and used that as a segue into a rant about the commonly held belief of women that they are so tough because of all they do. He described how Oprah introduced one of her guests and quoted her as detailing the list of this woman's mediocre accomplishments and then summing it up with, "and she has the most difficult job in the world: a mother." Bill ranted and raved about how it's not difficult at all. And it isn't. Not unless you have upwards of four children under three. It's just not a difficult job to be a mom.

It's in a woman's genetics to be a mom. So how - when you're following your instincts, and with all the technological and medical advances made by mankind - can rearing a child be difficult? They need food, clothes, entertainment, and nurturing. All of these things, women are designed to provide. But since women have been groomed to think that what they were made to do is somehow less valuable than what men were designed to do, they have to amp it up and make it into something much more important than it really is so they can feel better about themselves. So they can feel superior, not equal.

The idea that women are in any way superior to men is ridiculous. Not because they are not valuable in their own right, but because they are different. I hold that they are (or were) equal but different. Some women are just as intelligent as men, some are athletic in their own way, and some can do extraordinary things that allow them to rise above the rest of their sex. But they have done so in no greater numbers than men have. They're not better, and I'm sick and tired of the superiority complex we, as a society, have encouraged in women. Worse, women can't seem to take pride in their differences from men, and they've been conned by "social engineers" into thinking that what they can and do accomplish as feminine women is somehow less valuable to the world.

Yes, there are women have been responsible for creating many things we enjoy and use today. But let's not forget that while a woman may have invented the instant muffin mix, it was man who discovered the yeast that makes all things rise. I'm not saying women shouldn't be proud they created Scotchguard, the ironing board, or the dishwasher. Quite the opposite! They have the ability - the same one as men - to understand the world around them, and to make discoveries that ease life's little burdens. But I wish they'd stop pretending that the bra or vacuum packed canning is somehow more important than language, mathematics, or economics. I'm just tired of it.

Men were once seen as the masters of civilization and the princes of the universe, and for good reason; look at what they have collectively accomplished! Women used to be recognized as the support and inspiration for the pursuits of men, and were held in the highest regard because of it. Let's face it, that's one of the reasons why men do what they do - women are the reason humans started hunting larger game and - ultimately - building skyscrapers. In some small way (whether we acknowledge it or not) one of the driving forces behind many of the things men do is the pursuit of women. We do it so they'll admire us, love us, be protected, sheltered, fed, comfortable, or otherwise impressed and/or provided for.

I want women to reclaim their femininity, because it was prized. I want men to reclaim their sense of pride and their role as leaders, because they deserve it. And I want Oprah to shut up about how being a mom is the hardest job in the world.


"For Attractive lips, speak words of kindness. For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people. For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry. For beautiful hair, let a child run their fingers through it once a day. For poise, walk with the knowledge that you never walk alone. People, more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and redeemed. Remember, if you ever need a helping hand, you will find one at the end of each of your arms. As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself and the other for helping others." -- Audrey Hepburn.

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