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An Introduction, Of Sorts

Call me Niceguy.

I like to think of myself as a decent human being. I buy drinks for my friends when we go out. I help others when they're going through tough times. I treat animals kindly. If I could jump off the screen right now, I'd go and make us both a big bowl of popcorn just so we could sit down and enjoy it together. In short, I'm the kind of guy that others refer to as "nice."

Women have often asked me to fix their computers, prepare their taxes, help move their furniture, or assist them with their homework. They'd ask me to pick them up when they'd missed the last bus, they'd ask me to loan them money when they were in a jam, and they'd ask me to bring snacks in the middle of the night. And since I'm nice, I was always happy to help. Unfortunately, none of the women I put myself out for were ever interested in reciprocating. Help was suddenly unavailable whenever I was the one who needed it. "Oh, you're such a good friend!" I'd hear each time I was exploited. This wouldn't bother me so much except for the fact that refusing requests to be exploited was always met with a wall of disapproval.

Guys like me were brought up to believe that if we always tried our best, and were beacons of kindness and generosity in a world filled with thugs and cads, we would inevitably find a girl who would love us and accept us for who we were. Instead, those traits seemed to disqualify me from any sort of romantic arrangement, and I'm pretty sure I'm not alone here. Whenever I'd ask a woman out, she'd inevitably tell me that I was far too much like a brother to her, or that she didn't want to spoil our friendship. Such rejections were always followed with sincere assurances that when I eventually found a girlfriend, she would be so lucky to have a guy like me. Yes, a woman of grace and understanding was just around the corner, merely awaiting my displays of affection to fall right into my arms.

Well that's a myth. A fraud. A big damn lie. Now that I live in exile from my native culture, I can see that dating and romance in the West is a heavily skewed affair. It sees love and romance almost strictly in terms of what the female wants. What the female expects. What the female demands. The male is mere fodder. He needs to step up to the plate and work hard, and he needs to change to suit his woman's needs. She on the other hand, should just be herself, no matter how horrible or deceitful that may be.

So, if you'd like to know more about this site and its history, click here. If you'd like to chat to like minded men and women (yes we have supportive female readers), click here. Most importantly, if you'd like to tell me how much you hate me (and if you do, I suggest you don't read or try to understand anything on this site), then please click here.

NEW! - 29 September, 2016

My Response to Kashmira Gander

Written By Solaris

An article recently showed up in my news feed that made me raise my eyebrows. It was about MGTOW, and named me specifically as one of its originators, claiming I had called for men and women to adhere to traditional gender roles. This was news to me, as was the fact that MGTOW is apparently a movement of "men who've sworn never to sleep with women again".

Irked, and seeing as I'd been personally named in the piece, I fired off a snippy email to the author of the piece, one Kashmira Gander.

If you'd wanted to research MGTOW, you could have just gotten in touch with me, you know. I would have been happy to clear up a number of the misconceptions you seem to be operating under - the most important being the idea that MGTOW has anything to do with "never sleeping with women again".

I hadn't really expected a response, but to my surprise, Kashmira emailed me back with a series of questions about MGTOW. After some consideration, I decided to answer them in good faith, but because I have no idea if she'll revise her original article or do a followup, I have opted to post her questions and my responses here.

I hope you're well. Thank you for getting in touch with me. I appreciate your offer to clear up the misconceptions. Would you be interested in answering some questions I have regarding MGTOW?


Why did you originally write the MGTOW manifesto? What were your aims?

The original manifesto was written about 12 years ago in response to the emerging phenomena of men dropping out of society. It was less pronounced at that time, but definitely recognisable. MGTOW exists as a philosophical offering to those men. For more information on the phenomena itself, I suggest the book "Men on Strike" by Dr. Helen Smith, PhD.

Regarding the authorship of the manifesto, I'd like to make clear that I did not personally participate in its original creation, but did contribute various revisions, and am probably the most public of the very early Men Going Their Own Way. The very first version of the manifesto was written by Ragnar (as correctly noted in your article) and "Meikyo" (a pseudonym, of course) and then presented to a group on an early men's board for discussion. I currently administrate the board that inherited that membership.

What are the most important aspects of MGTOW that readers should know about? Are there defining principles?

MGTOW, at its core, encourages men to place their own needs, and emotional and intellectual fulfilment above the roles assigned to them by a society which has increasingly removed incentives to fulfil those roles. It also suggests that the path to doing so involves embracing one's own masculine nature (whatever an individual man determines that to be) instead of suppressing it. Beyond that, the originators of MGTOW have tried to avoid handing down a dogma to adhere to. There is no "one true path" to Going Your Own Way - indeed, that would be antithetical to the concept.

What is your view of how MGTOW has developed over the years? Has it grown into something you could not have predicted as the internet has become more widely available?

MGTOW has essentially spread out to fill the maximum available intellectual space the concept allows. That wasn't unexpected, at least to me.

Are there any "factions" of MGTOW that you no longer agree with?

I'd actually say there's never been any one group of MGTOW I found myself entirely aligned with, but that's the nature of the philosophy - MGTOW means something different to every man. If you are asking if there are any interpretations I oppose, I don't find it productive to actively seek them out and argue the point. Instead, I just keep re-iterating my own position in the hopes that others find value in it. In the near future, I hope to see more constructive engagement with the philosophy such that men can actively better their own lives.

What do you say to those who saying that MGTOWs are "sexist" or "homophobic"?

I'd say if somebody chooses to label men who identify as MGTOW as such, then rational discussion is unlikely to change their minds. These two terms now serve as little more than thought-terminating clich├ęs, provoking an emotional reaction and shutting down rational discussion, much like shouting "witch!" or "heresy!" in the middle ages.

What do you say to those who say that both men and women are victims of the existing systems that we live under, and that we should work together to enact change?

The idea of "working together to enact change" certainly makes for an appealing sounding platitude, but it leads to the question of whether this group of would-be problem-solvers is prepared to leave other people alone to tackle the perceived problem in their own manner and by their own means. If not, what you have is effectively a group seeking power for its own sake. You also mention "change" but fail to specify what manner of change. It's a word that plays right into the politician's fallacy:

  1. We must do something
  2. This is something
  3. Therefore, we must do this

Please add anything else you feel is important.

Only that I hope you approach my responses in good faith, and represent them honestly to others. :)


A day or so later I received the following response:

Thanks very much for taking the time to answer my questions.

Best wishes,

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