Rather Nice Letter From a Female Reader

I was very pleasantly surprised and refreshed to get this. It's from a woman named Nikki.

Nikki wrote:

Hello, I found your website because someone posted a link on one of the Yahoo msg. boards. I am a woman but I understand what you're saying. I want to tell you a little bit about me. (okay, to be honest, probably too much about me) I'm in my early 40s and have been married to the same guy since I was 19. I've never considered myself attractive, but I've aged well. I was thrilled at my 20 year high school reunion to find that I now look 10 years younger than all the cheerleaders. (think about that the next time you see a cute girl with a great tan) (It's great the marriage has lasted so long. That's something to be proud of nowadays. -- NG)

I have only an average public school education, but in the past few years I've gotten interested in all kinds of artsy intellectual stuff. I'll get back around to that later.

Sometimes I think I must be the loneliest woman in the world. My guy is great and we have a good relationship...that's not the problem. The problem is that I have no female friends. I get along with most other women okay, but there are none I really connect with. Guys are easier to talk to and much more interesting conversationalists.

All the stuff you said about women going for the wrong guy is true about a lot of women. I have often felt sorry for nice guys, and disgusted with the women who say things like "I love him but I'm not IN love with him;" or "He's a great guy but I just don't feel THAT way about him." I want to grab these women by the ears, get in their face and scream at them: "How can you be so stupid!" (Laff! If I had a nickel for every.... oh, how many times have we all found ourselves in that position?? It never ends. It literally never ends. Laff! -- NG)

Well, if that wasn't enough already what I'm about to say will probably piss-off more women than everything you've said. Most women are dull and stupid. Even educated women...they go to college and all they learn is a load of politically correct radical leftist crap. You mentioned Dostoyevsky - have you ever tried to talk to a woman about Dostoyevsky? (That'd be in the one where I compare him with Claudia Schiffer. -- NG) A number of months ago I participated in a discussion of "The Brother's Karamazov" on a message board. (BTW, I'm not sure but I think that quote you have on your site is from "TBK") I was the only woman except for one or two who just posted to brag that they had "never managed to make it through" any of Dostoyevsky's books. How pathetic!

It's the same with most serious topics. The few women who do show some interest usually don't know how to have a conversation. They're always throwing in petty irrelevant or off-topic remarks. Either online or in face to face conversations, it seems like women never want to discuss any subject in depth. They just hop from one topic of conversation to the next....throw in a light comment and move on. (Yeah, when I was at Thanksgiving with my family, my sister was flatulating through that wheezing, accursed second anus located just above her chin. Criticizing people she'd never met, talking about herself, talking about how life was awful in countries she'd never been to, talking about herself, talking about how incompetent I am... After about five minutes, I began to tune her out because... sigh ...because the incessant turkey-gobbling from her side of the table was getting too painful to listen to, quite bluntly. I fought the urge to grab the wooden salad-tongs, climb-over the table and thwack her repeatedly across the forehead yelling 'Stifle yer damnable, insolent noise-maker! Shut up! Shut up!' and then overturning a gravy-boat full of piping-hot pearl onion sauce on top of her. My dad later remarked to my mom after Sis left the house: "Your daughter's a real pistol, hon. I don't think we spanked her enough when she was growing-up..." -- NG)

This is really no problem for me, especially online. I love guys as friends. But it makes me feel ashamed that other women act so dumb. Why don't women talk about art, literature, music, philosophy and so forth?

Well there's my rant. Before I finally shut up, I want to leave you with something to think about: Suppose you meet a girl who is too fat, or too skinny and flat chested, or has a bad complexion, or is just homely. Would you try to get to know her? What if she's really shy and reluctant to open up? Will you give her a chance? There are Nice Girls out there too.

My Comments:

No, it was really fun to read this. My impression of this woman is that she's quite nice. I'm not just saying this because she agrees with me, mind you, I'm saying this because she genuinely seems to be a nice individual. Frankly, I'm very glad she wrote.

As for her final questions to me? Yes, I know the value of not judging a book by its cover... I can honestly say I've dated a variety of shapes, sizes, races and personality types. Would I try to get to know a woman who's got a bad complexion or whatever? Yes, I can say I would. And I've noticed more and more that women who aren't as attractive on the outside often have very good internal qualities. Unfortunately, many of them also seem to have boyfriends precisely because of this... what can I say? I'll continue trying to get to know as big a variety of women as possible.

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"When it comes to love, words are sometimes permitted to speak louder than actions. Indeed, love may be one of the most dangerous conditions of the human psyche, for it seems that people will tolerate, excuse, and commit almost any act in its name." -- Mary Batten

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