My Ongoing Collection of Reader Feedback

I love getting feedback, and this latest bunch has been simply GLORIOUS.

There were a couple notable quotes from emails (not included in the main section below) that I wanted to put right-up front because they are just too perfect. Someone wrote: "...American women almost unanimously project a countenance of selfishness, conceit and anger over the fact that the men of the world failed them in providing ENOUGH of everything..." Good lord, that one was gold. He hit the nail on the head and drove it straight through the board...
Furthermore, he went-on to say: "Maybe it's the way American women are raised, hell, maybe its something in the water; something seems to suck the compassion and general niceness out of women around here. American women have no soul. They feel that relationships are just distractions, men are nice little toys that buy them things and squash bugs and take out the trash..." Again, another bulls-eye.

And this one from another reader nearly killed me: "They are a farce! Western women are the only group on the planet to have the sheer oblivious audacity to do something like shout 'stop looking at my breasts!' while wearing a Wonderbra and low-cut blouse..." ROTFL! Aheeheehee...

My God... could it be? Am I often correct about the things that I've written? Might there actually be truth within my descriptions of the (at least) 2 generations of ball-breakers currently comprising the U.S. female population? Nightmarishly, that just might very well be it. I've always been wishing in the back of my mind that I was somehow totally wrong. But almost all the emails I've gotten over the last month have voiced some degree of agreement- rather, all of them but one hilarious exception (i.e. 'Suzy'). But for the most part, perhaps a large number of the critical female web-surfers of yesteryear have started to shy-away from a rather painful scrape with the thorns of a reality-check? Indeed, the truth's a real bitch, innit?

Even when viewed alongside the greatest lunacies of life, American chicks stick-out like sore thumbs every time. They are a never-ending parade of fools, aren't they? An opera bouffé. A circus of half-thinking simpletons who fancy themselves as deep-thinkers. How can I say such a mean thing? Very simple: they are among the few people on the planet who think the boredom of housework in a lavishly-appointed suburban home is the same thing as oppression. They are among the few people on the planet who think a stranger making kissing noises at them on the street makes them victimized. They are among the few people on the planet who think that comprising an ever-increasing majority of U.S. college graduates year after year (57% according to the 2002 figures) does not contradict their claims of being disadvantaged. They are among the few people on the planet who think living longer and comprising (at least) half the populace makes them both ill-treated and a minority. Yet on top of it all... despite all this knee-jerk condemnation and ultra-alertness to any conceivable manifestation of sexism in any way, shape or form... they are still among the few people on the planet who don't seem to notice that having misandristic tendencies while habitually leveraging their femininity to connive preferences and exceptions from the rest of society is in fact RAMPANTLY sexist! Laff! That's why you should give 'em all a wide berth. Half of 'em act as if they've got sawdust for brains; just plain stupid, to be blunt.
And then of course, there's the woman who applies makeup with a muckspreader. Or the one who spends 30 minutes fumbling at the drive-up ATM machine, oblivious to the mile-long column of honking cars forming in the rear-view mirror. Or the one that spends all day complaining how uncomfortable her shoes are, despite the fact that she purchases shoes based on how they look rather than how they feel. Or the one who leaves tangled hair-balls in the sink and makes the bathroom smell like a sickly, overgrown botanical garden because she spends 4 hours prepping her hairstyle and odor to go to the freakin' movies... heh okay, okay- those last four sentences were totally gratuitous.

Oh, and if you're a woman: don't hold back, I crave your insults and your bile. I am the two things you despise the most: a halfway decent male and a critic. Go on, here's a chance to take a free shot! Do it! Do it! Do it! Vent your spleen at me! Don't worry your pretty little head, it's perfectly safe because everyone around you will automatically give you sympathy for your poor, hurt feelings. Oh yes, the world will take your side darling, not mine. You can safely dismiss anything I say because I'm a defective loser and not nearly as intelligent and capable as you are.

But moving right along, dear reader- go slice yourself some Challah bread or sip a half-pint of Qwik (tm) strawberry-flavored milk. Here comes more samples from my ongoing collection of reader feedback...

CM (a guy) writes:

nice website bro, totally agree with you. like you read my fucking mind

(I get lots of messages like this... The more the merrier. -- NG)

KF (a male or female, couldn't tell) writes:

Okay, NiceGuy = Brian Smith?

(Hee! Has this turned into a guessing-game or something? How droll! Right now, I should make it clear: in future, I will neither confirm nor deny any guesses as to my identity. But this email elicited a first-time freebie because it amused me so. -- NG)

I write back:

>Okay, NiceGuy = Brian Smith?

Sorry, I don't know who that is. Thanks for asking, though! -- NG

(Note: 'Brian Smith' is not the actual name KF sent me. I changed it in the interest of protecting the name of the fellow whom KF suspected I might be. -- NG)

Cindy (a gal) writes:

An alternative....men seem to want to use their strenghth to batter women and then end up in the courts. Try a glass of water... whenever a women brings men to the edge of physical reaction...try throwing a glass of water in their face! Leaves no marks and gets the point across! amazing results! (Well, it's not that most men want to batter women, it's just that some people unfortunately lack the ability to express themselves through non-violent means. And this is coupled with the fact that women often love this type of man, and they are furthermore often successful at nagging these men to the point that they snap. These factors all mesh horribly well with each other. -- NG)

(Thanks for the advice... Perhaps that might've worked against Whorebag... if only she didn't stand a good chance of gouging my eyes-out with her fingernails afterwards. -- NG)

Mercer (a previous contributor) sends me some sound advice on the Fumiyo situation...

Humm. You are in trouble. My advice is to begin lengthening out your dinners with Fumiyo. Make some polite excuses. See her every 3 weeks, then maybe every month, then even less.

No good can come of this situation. The more you are exposed, the greater chance you have of becoming involved. This has nothing to do with you (so to speak). My concerns revolve around her feelings...

...At some point in time, Fumiyo will make her move, even if you don't. It's obvious that she was feeling you out on that particular evening. She clearly finds you attractive (references to T. Cruise, Russ. C) and more to the point, was interested in your feelings about whether her being married bothered *you* - meaning something even far more insidious: namely, that should she have an affair with you, *she* would NOT be bothered by doing so! Thus, we now prove that women - ALL WOMEN - play by different emotional rules. Having an affair clearly would not "bother" her. Her husband is irrelevant in this matter and, as long as you were not "bothered", then no harm done! How capricious! (In a potential affair, my feelings are more important than the feelings of her husband? That is screwed-up, if it would indeed come to pass. -- NG)

...The more likely scenario is that this would be a well-kept secret between the two of you. Something no one would ever know of. This makes her extremely dangerous and proves she is, after all, a woman with no regard for others or a "fixed" conscience or moral code.

Stay/get away... sooner or later, she'll make a move. Thus, there are really only 3 options:

1) You refuse, offending her
2) You accept (bad, VERY bad)
3) Stay away.

(Yes, I agree. I'm planning on perhaps gradually seeing her less and less as time goes by. The only way she'll have sex with me is by tying me up and forcing herself on me... hmm, I'm getting oddly excited for some reason... -- NG)

JB, (another guy) writes:

I got your back man, you are right on about most of this. Here's my story. My last girlfriend (now x) and I were together for 3 years. 2 of those years living together. Oh it was great.. for the first 2 years. Then it went strait to hell. She never knew what she wanted, was always confused... except being confused about wanting me to spend money on her all the time and take her out to the clubs so she could show off her new clothes (that I bought) and body to the other guys there all the while with me just looking on in heartbreak and shock. Then, we sign a lease on a new apartment, nice two bedrooms, huge place. In hindsight this was a huge mistake, I should have bailed out looong before, but I just couldn't bring myself to leave her. We sign for the place, put the money down, etc.. we even start moving our stuff in. A week before we were going to do the complete move in, furniture and all, she breaks up with me, on a Friday night no less. (Oh, jeez. Ya know, a woman is capable of doing anything she desires... but only when there's absolutely no sane reason behind it. -- NG) So yeah, I think women suck and I will be treating all future women I meet with a huge grain of salt. It's way to hard to take them seriously anymore, and commitment? Only if she makes 6 figures. (Good luck on that one, a woman with 6 figures will only make a commitment with you if you have 7 figures. No matter how much she makes, she will only consider a 'provider'-type to be eligible. Women must be pretty darn blessed to only expect to marry their economic superiors. -- NG)

Yes women are stupid, treat them that way, they seem to love it anyway. They flock to abuse. They look for your weaknesses and try to bring out the worst in you. They are no better than animals in my opinion. Human biology is so closely related to animals it's sickening, and women only do better by their actions to confirm how closely related to animals we really are. (Yes, methinks if they could pull their heads-out of their arses for a minute, they might get some oxygen to their brains and start living in the world of reality with the rest of us... -- NG)

my $0.02

disillusioned and heartbroken, JB

(Thanks for the two cents! -- NG)

DL (an additional guy) writes:

Im glad that I found your page, I really needed to hear this. Since, everytime I turn around all I hear is MEN SUCK! Geez, enough already! I was at this Astrology message board not too long ago (I stopped going because there is nothing but middle-aged man hating women at those boards) and this one woman said "I believe in chivalry, but I am an independent woman." (Bright as a two-watt bulb, she is. And into astrology, too! Wow. -- NG) Hey, maybe that was your ex, Whorebag, that I found on that on that site! Was Whorebag a Libra? (LAUGHS!)
Well, anyway good luck with the Japanese women, hopefully you will find the right girl! You made the right move to leave this suckass country. I love it here sometimes, but other times it truly sucks as bad as the women.

(Thanks! -- NG)

KR (yet another guy) writes:

Man I want you to know I am an American guy and I agree with with completely on women. They are such bitches. I was such a happy guy until I meet a girl and she screwed my life up. I know am rebuilding what I lost from being with her and its hard.

mostly my friend and I, who have both been heartbroken by bitches before just wanted to complement you on your TRUE work. It is so in prespective of the great truth. Women suck, I just hope to meet a girl one day who will love me and be honest and not an attention getting ho from hell as I have seen before.

Great site and best of luck to you ;=)

(What can I say but 'thanks!'? -- NG)

Hawker (a... guy) writes:

Right on man, I just got out of a relationship that I was used like a tool in. The only time she ever looked at me is when she wanted a ride or something to eat. Ive been told by many girls that im a nice guy, but they arent ready for a realationship. Then a week later I see her with some rich punk preppie. Im a firm beliver that all women are materialistic. When your money's gone, so are they. (As Hesiod once said: women "are no good sharers of abject want, but only of wealth". -- NG) In this crappy town, alot of guys have fat wallets and drive 2002 TransAms. I work at wal-mart and drive a '78 Mustang II. Im the nicest guy in school too. That gets me real far. I tottally support your site.

(That ain't a bad-looking car... but, thanx! -- NG)

DoublePlus ('nother guy) writes:

...but something to think about: If you are going to focus strictly on non-American women, you have GOT to get one who hasn't been Americanized! Otherwise, you're dealing with an American broad with a speech impediment! (Heh, well I actually find foreign accents to be very charming. -- NG)

The best way to avoid that scenario is to probably move to another country altogether. If she comes here the American women, aka the Furies, will snap her up and assimilate her like the Borg on 'Star Trek' ("Resistance is futile.").

(Heh, if you remember that show: Riker- an arrogant asshole of an officer if there ever was one- got laid more than any of the male Enterprise crew. With the possible exception of Data, that is. Chuckle. Meanwhile, the miracle-worker engineer and all-round nice guy Geordi LaForge was constantly going to bed alone. -- NG)

Petros (a male in Cyprus) writes:

hey dude, i surfed to your webpage today. man, i COMPLETELY understand you! i spend my entire life worshiping women and being a male feminist. and now that i am 21 i finally get it! they are attracted to complete assholes! there's something wrong with them! they don't like guys like us that respect them and love them. i get the "but you are like a brother to me" and "but we are friends and i don't want our friendship to be spoilt" quotes a lot. WHAT THE FUCK MAN? With whom are they going to have a steady and serious relationship? with a complete stranger that they are just sexually attracted to? or with someone they are best friends with? someone that they know loves and respects them? (Think of it this way: do you really think she means what she is hinting: "I only get sexually involved with people who I don't really like"? -- NG) man they walk all over me! i HAVE to change if i am going to survive!

anyway, great site!
keep up the good work!

(My God, how is it possible that my experiences have been multiplied a billion times across the face of the planet!? It is either a massive coincidence... or that women (mostly) suck! -- NG)

Tybalt (a guy) writes:

I saw on tv that Paul McCartney was in england and his fiance threw their engagement ring out the window of their hotel in an argument. He had to pay someone to fly it back to America once it was found. Just thought you might think that was interesting.

(Yup, indeed I do... Her actions are utter balderdash, what could they possibly have been arguing over? I mean- she's marrying Paul McCartney, what the hell kind of nit-picking trivial problem can she possibly find to argue-over given her circumstances?! Can't she just freakin' enjoy a life of luxury among celebrities? Nooo, she's gotta fly into rage and throw her ring away on top of all that. Women seem to like demanding expensive, useless baubles... and throwing them away in a fit of pique. Two words: BRAIN-DEAD! -- NG)

Zubin (a guy) writes:

Before I begin, let me introduce myself. My name is Zubin. I'm an 18 year-old male currently living in Chattanooga, TN, the butthole of the United States. (I dunno about that. I've been through Camden, NJ a few times... -- NG)

My relationships with women have been few and far in between, to say the least. Which I have no problem with. In fact, I've made it clear to many of my friends that I have neither the time nor energy to put towards a relationship with the opposite sex.

I've turned down many offers of relationships, simply because I wasn't interestered in a relationship at the time.

Recently, however, I met a girl named Jessaka. Jessaka is still a sophmore in High School, but you couldn't tell at first glance. My friend Weaver happened to be dating Jessaka's friend, Dawn, at the time. One day, he called me and asked if I wanted to meet Dawn, Jessaka and himself at a park. Naturally, I agreed, and met them half an hour later.

To sum up all that unnecesary romance crap, I was attracted to her at the time, even though I knew she was dating another guy. However, by the end of the night, Weaver informed me that she was attracted to me. She had been on bad terms with her boyfriend Jeffrey, so that night, I was sort of her knight in shining armor.

We ended the night with a very intense kiss, and things were looking pretty good. She called the next 2 days, and we had some great conversations during that time.

Only problem was that she was still attracted to her ex-boyfriend, Jeffrey. So, in typical female fashion, she strung me along until I was starting to really get into her, and dumped me without a moment's hesitation. I confronted her later and was slapped in the face with the 'ol "we'd be better off as friends..." crap. I informed her that it was kind of hard to look at her as a friend after her tongue had been down my throat the other night.

My friend Weaver, in turn, was dumped by Dawn, after 2 and a half weeks. His parents are going through a nasty divorce, and this relationship was his outlet. Things were looking great the day before, but out of nowhere, she broke up with him claiming that "she didn't want to get into a deep relationship and get hurt again". Funny, but that's what Weaver expressed to her from Day 1, since he has been dumped consecutively by nine different girls that he was really into.

Jessaka is still attracted to Jeffrey (natch). After all, he blew her off twice in a row to go party with his friends, hangs up on her when she calls him, and generally treats her like crap. Girls always end up dumping the "sweet" guys for the idiot-jerks. (Yes they do... as for idiot-jerks, women can 'understand' them. Could it be they 'understand' idiot-jerks because women act like idiot-jerks themselves most of the time? -- NG)

Sorry to rant like this, but WOMEN SUCK, PLAIN AND SIMPLE.

I hear all these sob stories from girls about how they get dumped by their boyfriends and such, and how women are always the victims. And I agree, many guys are not mature enough to handle a relationship, and don't get their priorities in order. (And women can't get enough of them. -- NG) But girls are just heartless. They have the gall to dump you after only 2 dates, but not enough backbone to tell you the truth when you ask them about how they think the relationship is going.

Thus, I've sworn off women, or at least ones with an IQ over 60. Because it's not worth it to go through this crap when there are other things that matter so much more.

And whoever said that "It is better to have loved and have lost than to have never loved at all" is a total moron. (Or a masochist. Or a woman. -- NG)

Keith (a guy), writes:

Amen brother, AMEN!

American women are full of themselves. I have seen those examples of women going for the trashy guy all the time. Its like "Hmm, if i toss her around, make fun of her, call her a bitch (they love this one it seems), and then demand sex, They'll flock after me!" is the way that it works out. Of course, as you have said, women hate seeing this. I read about your page on a Message Board, and of course the women were bashing it. (Heh, what can I say? The truth's a bitch! But if I'm so in error about everything I say, why can't they bash me directly instead of doing it behind my back? -- NG) But, of course, they were being hypocrites. One stated that if a man wants sex in a relationship early, then the man should wait, but if a women wants it early, and the man does not give, the women should leave him! That is ludicrous! (I expect nothing less than total ludicrousness from 'em. If they'd ever start getting a clue, I'd be stunned. -- NG)

I'd like to finish by saying keep up the good work, and the truth.

(Thanks! -- NG)

Onyx (a guy) writes:

Sounds like you and I have been in the same boat, but I write to give you hope, I used to feel the same way about (most) women that you do, but I assure you that some time you will meet a woman that will go with you for a little bit, than she will screw you over....but the diffrence in this woman will be that she will turn around, look at what she has done, and somthing diffrent will happen, she will feel sorry that she screwed the nice guy over, then she will come back to you and beg for a second chance. I am getting married to such a woman, there is hope. (Well, that gives rise to the question: is she actually worth his time now that she's already rejected him once? It won't be so hard for her to do it the next time. -- NG)

Paula (a woman) writes:

I'll be brief......

I agree with many aspects of your site, I must admit, you have many good points. (Well, I appreciate the grudging agreement. -- NG)

Lately it has turned into more of a "NiceGuy's AMERICAN Women Suck Page!", but I could deal with that. Although I'm not American, I've lived in America longer than any other place, and the women can be rather "bitchy". (Only 'rather'? My, she's being generous. Or maybe she just likes using understatements? -- NG)

However, what has turned me off was the comment about how it was fun to laugh at American women, especially because of their hairyness. Quite honestly, I found that a pretty low blow. (Heh, of all the low things I've written, she considers that to be the lowest? Wow. -- NG) As far as weight is concerned.... that is controllable to a degree. The amount of body hair one has due to genetics, that is another matter. I'm Asian and I have a small build and virtually no body hair on my arms and legs so I guess that comment didn't even apply to me, but laughing at someone just because of a characteristic of their race doesn't strike me as funny. I've met American women who laughed and said European women were hairy and I didn't find that very funny either. (Well, quite true. -- NG)

That's my minor complaint, and I'm probably taking your comment in the wrong context anyway. (Actually, she's not. My comment was an actual insult. -- NG) Sorry to bother you, but I just had to say something because it was the one thing bugging me about your otherwise excellent website. (Aww, shucks. Blush. -- NG)

Best of luck finding a girlfriend in Japan!

I reply:

Thanks for writing!
Well, I'm glad that you found my writings mostly inoffensive... I guess, YES it was rather tasteless to laugh at physical characteristics that are beyond the control of American women (note, I never said 'white' women. I try to remove the racial aspect whenever possible.) However, you also lose your inhibition of taking cheap shots after you grow-up among women who laughingly belittle men over our supposed 'testosterone poisoning' or 'thinking with our penises' based on the fact that we are subject to natural urges that we often have difficulty controlling. If we are truly prisoners of our biology, then I don't see why I should be expected to absorb the same offensive treatment year after year without eventually hitting back one day. -- NG

FinishedLast (a feller), writes:

Hey, first of all, I love your site to little tiny pieces because it possesses the ring of absolute truth: women suck! I have my own little Sucky
Woman Story for you to peruse. It is so insanely stupid, it makes absolutely no sense even to me, who has spent over a month nonstop trying to figure it
out. Well, here goes.

To begin with, the sucky woman in this case happens to be a very good friend of mine. A year ago, she was there for me when I was getting over a very bad breakup with another sucky woman who took advantage of my own Nice Guy Syndrome. Anyhow, the woman in question was so very understanding and kind to me, even though she had never actually been in a relationship before...and a short time before this, I began to realize that I had feelings for her. So, last September, I bit the bullet and asked her out. It was hard, her being pretty much my best friend and all. Anyway, she said she wasn't interested in a relationship at the time...I said it was no problem and left the door open for her to let me know if she changed her mind. This was our last year of high school, and she was going to graduate early, at the end of first semester, and was supposed to move to Canada for college. I was really devestated because I still hadn't tried everything yet and wanted to have a chance, but I could never convince her to let me try. So, December came, and she left without even saying goodbye. Horrible, eh? It gets worse. In late April, our school was having it's Senior Breakfast, where we would receive our caps and gowns for graduation. It was there that the woman reentered my life, and I thought it was like a message from God, giving me a second chance. It turns out, however, that she never left the state...she only moved downtown and had been working the whole 5 months...not schooling. (A woman who's a total liar? But... but women don't lie! Why, they constantly tell me that themselves! -- NG) Well, since she was moving back to my town, I would be seeing more of her. So, I tried once again to win her heart. This time, I bared my soul to her and told her EVERYTHING I felt for her...I was prepared for rejection again, but not for what she told me. It turns out that in August, before I asked her out, she had decided to try dating some random guy...who was a real scumbag and started making up all sorts of lies about her. After one date, it was all over, understandably. So when I asked in September, I get the cold shoulder. Later, she dated some guy who I'd really love to kill. My friend was 17 at the time, and this man was in his mid 20's and already had a kid...on top of that, he had 3 felony convictions for violence and drug abuse, and was still a druggie. (What a catch he is! Laff! -- NG) After their dinner together, she went home with this guy and they had a friend over...the man and his pal couldn't think of anything more impressive to do than get high and play pool, whilst leaving my friend to sit and cry. Then came December, when she left without a trace. And, after that, she dated yet another guy while living downtown. Now she comes back and has the nerve to tell me all this!? I am a decent guy, probably one of the best around (not to sound conceited, because I am not) and I truly love her, and have for some time. She has gone out with these disreputable reject guys, yet the one man who truly feels for her is the one she turns away. I never even had a chance! Now, she is going to leave for college in August, and I will probably never see her again, and I will never know what there could have been between us, if anything.

(All together now: THE LYING BEEYOTCH AINT WORTH IT! -- NG)

If this isn't the most horrible and depressing story, I don't know what is.It is proof that women obviously do not have the decency to see the men that are of true quality. I've always asked myself why women always go for the stupid, arrogant, pompous, druggie sons of bitches instead of the sweet, loving, compassionate, RESPECTABLE men. Someone help me out here, I'm lost...well, keep up the good work on the site, and keep fighting the power.

(Amen, and thanks! -- NG)

MK, a former contributor, writes an email titled: "They can do it - You Can't!"

I saw this in Playboy two or three months ago. Probably March. I'm quite sure it is true.

I read that two female college students decided one day to go jogging nude. In public. In full view of children, etc.

A police officer (Male) stopped and arrested them for public indecency and indecent exposure, etc.

Once in court, they waived their right to an attorney and decided to represent themselves. They got this officer on the stand and asked him one question.

Had he seen their genitalia?

He replied that, no, he had not. The judge then - are you ready for this? The judge then decided to drop the charges because "where a woman's genitals are, they are mostly concealed, and the girls had not been indecent." (What about naked breasts? Aren't those considered to be something a woman shouldn't bear in public? Well, maybe except for Mardis Gras... -- NG)

Well Holy Fucking Shit. That sets a legal fucking precedent.

What this means is that from now on, any woman may jog in the nude in public and not fear prosecution because her attorney can simply cite this case and get the charges dismissed. (Not just JOG in public, but also shopping, ride a bike... basically do anything but crouch-over a mirror. -- NG) Should a man choose to do this, HOWEVER, he would be immediately arrested and prosecuted on the grounds that men's genitalia are clearly visible.

They can do it - You can't!

MK

(To be very honest- this story, if it is indeed true, doesn't shock me one iota. I have come to realize that women are, in legal cases regarding their bodies, entirely unimpeachable by U.S. law. In the eyes of U.S. law, women are made of Teflon. Binty chicks like the two in this story are among an officially-protected species of moron. On the flip-side of the argument, having more naked women running around in the streets isn't necessarily a bad thing IMHO... but they also shouldn't be shocked when they go-out in the nude and someone tries to do something like take pictures... or maybe cop a feel. Heh, but knowing women- if someone ever tried to grab their asses while they went jogging in the nude, you know they'd totally scream 'harassment'. Lord knows, a woman (like a three year old) can never be expected to control herself. If you don't believe me, I recall reading a few months ago... one of the women who was featured on the cover of one of the Girls Gone Wild!/Girls on Spring Break! style-videos launched a lawsuit on the producer-- for taking videos of her as she cavorted topless and boozy around New Orleans. I don't know how the case turned-out, but it only proves what I'm talking about. If you take a picture of a drunken boob-flasher on Bourbon Street, you'd better believe that she'll probably demand to rip the film right out of your camera instead of actually thinking before ripping-off her chemise. -- NG)

These were excerpted from a rather long and pleasant email written to me by Maria (a young woman from Spain):

...I wrote to you because, well, I like good honest people, and it hurts me when some good person ends up totally disappointed with goodness. Not only about the things you mention in your page, but about everything. I verily believe that good, nice people are a majority in the world, and that only being good and nice you can be really happy. But, of course, there's the problem of finding destructive or self-destructive antropoids out there, always ready to get into someone's pacific, constructive, tranquil life and spoil it. That's why when someone seems sad or bitter or bored or simply fed up about things being the way they shouldn't be, I always try to... Well, I don't know... To say, yes, these and those are bad, and this is wrong, but well, there's lots of good people out there who will agree with you. Just try to find them.

...It is that I understand not only what you say in your page, but also the tone in which you say it. It is about being fed up with injustice and stupidity. You write in an ironic, generalistic, exaggerated, reivindicative tone because that's the way to call people's attention. As you say, you could mention mildly that "there is a most unhealthy tendency in young women to feel attracted and attach themselves to the most inconvenient males..." But who would listen? The sad truth must be said shouting, or you won't be heard. (Indeed, can't reasonable people talk any louder than female idiots do?? -- NG)

...in the beginning, when I saw your page, I thought: "Uf, I understand him, but this could be dangerous. Some bastard could feel morally supported by this". But when I read your disclaimers I understood: when something is so unfair, and caused by stupidity, one has to say it out loud. And I know that bastards need no moral support to be violent towards women, and will mistreat them and beat them and cuckold him with or without reading your page; wether nice men will always be nice, even if it means going to Japan or putting their heads to receive the blow. I really hope things go well for you. I hate when things go bad for good people, because good-intentioned, nice, polite, generous people are the RIGHTFUL owners of the world, and the selfish bastards out there exist just because we allow them to. (And how many less bastards there would be if women were intelligent and cursed them to forced solitude and celibate!). Don't they see that if they go out with bastards they will never change? (No, she still thinks that maybe she can change him into someone nice. It's much more dramatic to be disappointed, and if there's one thing a woman needs to create for herself: it's an overdose of drama. -- NG)

...And my boyfriend really agrees with you. He's the kind of young man that feels indignation when he sees some bastard with a different girlfriend EVERY WEEK. "Maria," he asks "if that guy has no money, is dirty, lazy, ugly, uninteresting, and treats her bad... What the hell does she see in him?" I am unable to answer. What my boyfriend says is "Well, if she wants to suffer, it's okay with her. But later, I am not going to listen to her moans: they take advantage of the fact that I suffer with other people's pain, but I am not going to stand it anymore. No one has the right to spoil her life with a bastard and then come to the good people just because they'll feel pity. My time is too precious to spend it listening to problems that shouldn`t have been from the very beginning".

(Heh, glad my core messages made it through! Thanks! -- NG)

Lida (a woman) sends me some paint-by-numbers dating advice. Ugh:

Hi there..!
My name is Lida, and I am a woman.. :) hehe. Alright, well.. I don't disagree with your site. I can't say I agree with everything 100% but I see your point very well. I suppose men and women all have their flaws. I was reading a part of your site where it said how you are a nice guy. How you did all this stuff for your girl friends but never got a girlfriend. Okay, well.. I believe that it's all in the chase. When a guy is always nice and willing to do everything, he subconsciously gives the girl power. She now has power over him since she knows he will do this and that, often without question. The guy feels... okay... though he thinks.. "im doing all this stuff for this girl and yet she only brushes me off as a friend..." The girl may actually only see the guy as a friend though. So? She thinks. He is the one that is doing everything.. i'm not asking him to, he just is. She may feel no chemistry toward the guy, hence the phrase, "i dont like you in THAT WAY." But what is a girl to do, go out with the guy out of guilt? That'd be horrible. (What's a girl to 'do'? Never mind dating- I think a girl, any girl, should consider getting her head examined. That's what she should 'do'. -- NG)

Now back to the idea of the chase. The idea is not to give up too much power to the girl. keep the chase going. Play a little bit hard to get. (Yes, play 'hard to get'. In fact, I'm so 'hard to get' that I will guarantee that no American chick will ever have me. -- NG) It's allllmost like building with legos. If you just give the girl a finished building its over before it begins. But if you give her blocks, one by one, she will hook on and it will start to build. Thats where the excitment is. Does any of this make sense? (No. -- NG) I am afraid to proof read it b/c i dont feel like re-writing anything.. (Well now that she's mentioned it, it kinda shows. -- NG) Anyway, more about myself.. I am not an American girl, so you don thave to run from me. I was born in Gdansk, Poland - polish being my first language, and now I live in NY. I'd like a foreign guy sometimes too, to be honest. What a difference there is between continents!

(Thanks for being so polite... but, once again: I am not even remotely interested in advice on how to attract American chicks, I'd sooner solicit advice on how to contract malaria! -- NG)

Ignatius (a guy) writes:

I read Endgame, and I have to say I really feel for you. I am 19 year old male. I was in a relationship for about 2 years. She was my very first girlfriend. But I had to break up with her. She, too, was a manipulative bitch. I won't go into the details for 2 reasons. First, I want to keep this short. Second, I can't really remember the details. You see, she made me so upset that the only thing I could do to not blow up at her was to literally forget what she did to me. I did this by just not thinking about what she did to make me upset. Also I would sleep immediately after she made me upset, so as to quickly forget why I was upset. (Yikes. This chick is so horrible, he's repressed it all. -- NG) Things came to a head today. I broke up with her. According to her, I'm going to be a loner for the rest of my life and I'm going to hell. (Laff! Yes, hell hath no fury like a woman scorned... If you do go to hell after experiencing a woman scorned, then you're probably in for a comparative vacation. -- NG) She made me feel really guilty, so I decided to surf the web to get my mind off of her. (Oh, don't let the little shrew's parting shots get to you. Seriously. She's only angry because in her mind, only she should have the right to break-up with anyone. THAT is why 'hell hath no fury...' -- NG) While chatting about what had happened to me, someone gave me the link to your webpage. I could really see what she had done to me after reading Endgame. I don't know why, but I feel I should thank you. Your story has let me see that I made the right decision.

(Next time, have a zero-tolerance policy for lunatic-bitchiness. The downside is, if you do have zero-tolerance for lunatic-bitchiness, you'll filter-out nearly 100% of all women you'll meet. -- NG)

Flechet (a guy) writes:

Hey, thanks for the website. We need more stuff like that so women can 'get it'. Anyway, I completely hear you. I read a number of your accounts of the opposite gender and they seem incredibly familiar. After a really bad experience a couple years ago with a particularly immature girlfriend, I've thrown in the towel and decided that it NEVER pays to be nice - except to one or two select platonic girlfriends to whom I've played 'free therapist' etc.... but to whom I also make it very clear that it will never go beyond 'platonic' because I will not let them play that game. At ANY RATE, my point here is simply that I've been much happier since I decided to not accept any bullshit from women. I won't put up with it. And all it does is make them want you more! Stupid, I know - and it makes me lose respect for them - but it's what they seem to want. They complain about the way I treat them but they seem to keep coming back for more. Granted, this is not really the way I want things to be (mutual affection is more up my alley) but it's the only thing that seems to work. So listen please, all you women out there... and learn. Then kiss my derriere. Thanks again nice/evil guy. Good luck and don't take any shit.

PS - as for the flipside - I wonder if the whole PROBLEM stems from the fact that guys are too nice to women in the first place. If they're getting hit on constantly by 'nice guys' - they get all this attention, and it's simply a bit boring. Too easy. When you meet a guy who seems like a bit of a challenge, how could it NOT be attractive. So, in a way, I think we've kind of done it to ourselves... but this is simply yet another argument for not being nice to women. Let's get the show on the road.

(I, too have lost tolerance for any and all forms of female bullshit. I understand exactly what he means. -- NG)

PianoMan, a former contributor, writes:

This is piano man! A lot of positive things have happened to me since my last email to you! Reading your site helped me move on from the place I was working at where I was getting a lot of negative vibes from mostly American women. I'm now working with male business owners who are in creative industries. I used to play music to meet girls but now I play to relax with my male friends. I also met a woman from Costa Rica and we had a fun, hot, and no strings relationship for a while before she returned to her home.

Here is a story about me finding the confidence to not tolerate the mean stuff women do. I have stopped being a pushover. I had met a sexy lady after playing music with some friends at a liquor store owner's convention. She was a freebie because she just walked up to me, looked me in the eyes, smiled, grabbed her boobs, and licked her lips. She had on a tight black see thru outfit. I thought this was too good to be true. We went to her apartment and we started to get it on. I thought maybe she was going to ask me to pay for sex so I flat out asked her if she was a prostitute. She said "no" and that she just wanted to mess around. We both got naked and started kissing. She then bit my lip hard enough to draw blood. (Ouch. -- NG) I said "ouch" and I immediately put on my clothes and left her place. I didn't say any other words. Man... she was stunned. The look on her face when I left was perplexed to say the least. She called me the next week (I had given her my phone number) and asked why I left. Can you believe that? I said you bit my lip hard enough to draw blood! She really did not get it. I did not want a relationship with this woman so I hung up the phone on her. She is hot enough that she does not need to call me back. I feel sorry for the next guy she does this to because he will probably deck her and get arrested.

I think men in America are suffering from low-self esteem from all the media bashing and double-standards. I think it's best that men create things and bond a bit more with other males. Yes, most men still like hot ladies, but American women will take years off your life if you let them.

My stepfather is a purple heart winner and Vietnam vet. He was a medical chopper pilot but my mom is wearing him down like she did my natural father. One day we were all riding in my stepdad's truck with him driving. I was talking politics and I wasn't paying attention to other cars around us. Suddenly, my stepdad slams on the gas and jumps the curb into a empty parking lot. A half a second later a van doing over a 80mph in a 40mph zone speeds by. Two seconds later 3 police cars chase him. The van stops after loosing control and the cops arrested those clowns. I thought jumping the curb was quick thinking on my stepdad's part. My mom actually started yelling at him for jumping the curb and ruining the rims on his own truck! I thanked him for possibly saving my life. My stepdad is being made to feel worthless day by day by my mom. His eyes have lost the spark they had when I first met him. My mom constantly teases him about Vietnam. He won his purple heart as a chopper pilot for being wounded while extracting wounded soldiers in battle.

P.S. Stay away from psychologists! My sister started out as one and she is a mean-spirited and arrogant bitch. Talk with other guys who have had similar experiences. Listen or read how they have changed their lives for the better and maybe apply what your comfortable with in your life.

Please feel free to post this email. I enjoy reading your site.

(Thanks! -- NG)

FringeRider (a guy) writes:

I ran across your site, not looking for some misogynist outlet (Oh good. Glad to see I'm reaching a wider audience. Snicker. -- NG) (I had already known about one) but for any sites dedicated to the bashing of The Man Show as a sexist program, and hoping to stir up trouble by illustrating their comparisons with programs like The View, Oprah, the litany of daytime 10cent talk show hosts, and basically, the entire Lifetime channel.

Your site made me laugh, made me cry, made me angry. Your description of stretching hope until it disappears and gets displaced by malice was fairly apt. And considering my emotional response to Miala and yours, I would guess I still have a strand of that hope left.

I've always thought I was the problem. I still have misgivings about myself, but the notion that women are inherently evil (well, US women) has slowly crept up upon my psyche had lessened my overall depressive state. I had literally sworn off women, but I still look, despite my concsious desire not to.

I had suspected niceties were poison to women, but I've never seen it in such immense descriptive detail, and the more I examine your experiences and look at my own, I realize there's a virtual impossibility of finding anyone out here. I'm 19 and still a virgin. I expect to remain that way because I am incapable of being cruel. I cannot accomplish anything demeaning or sadistic that your evil persona had. Because I'm ultra-nice, I've given and not received to the point of dopehood that women expect out of you, just to gleefully grab your heart and stomp around on it. I must be the 'best' (theraputic) friend of 187 women. (Not to mention 'source of free favors'. -- NG) Although I've lost it in that respect and will tell them to take it elsewhere if they want MY support several months after rejecting ME. Okay, so I guess its creeping in. (Nahh, that's truly the only way to kick the habit. -- NG)

Sorry about the random babble, I'm tired, worked hard today, and enjoy using my computer for long periods of time, which I gleefully spent with MY money that never saw a female or will pay for one.

But my message is for you to NEVER stop your message. I'm sure you receive email from many nice guys who were nailed to the wall by platform/high heeled shoes and left with moths flying from wallets. (Hah! Oh, the images! -- NG) The times are growing worse, the message must be sent before men are transformed into serfdom. Some may say its arrived. Like in southern Cali, where its MANDATORY to pay child support to some woman if she picks you out and says you're the father of her kid. Even if DNA testing proves wrong, the court will ORDER the poor sap to pay. It doesn't matter, because a woman said so. Go look it up, I'm not kidding that its this bad. (I got some good clarification on this issue, it's posted at the bottom of this page. -- NG) I'm not sure of when you left, perhaps it was before this kind of ultra-ultra feminazi thinking came about, (I left a mere three months ago, so no. Not by a longshot. -- NG) but its certainly already a slippery road to hell.

Another in the ranks of defeated NiceGuys, FringeRider

(I love the way this guy writes! -- NG)

Suzy (an American chick), sends me the inner-workings of her mind- with the inspired title "Rot in Hell, Pig":

I am a 24-year old American woman who has just had the misfortune of stumbling upon your insipid excuse for a website and may I say that you are quite a piece of work? Blaming all American women for the actions of a few is really quite an ignorant thing to do. "Bestowing my kindness strictly on non-American women", are you? Go ahead, because you will not be missed by any of us. (What's this? A frothing American chick with a blazing temperament? Jeepers, I've been proven wrong about them once again! -- NG)

And as for your exiling yourself from us American women, so you can surround yourself with Japanese women who are taught from birth that obeying a man's every command is what you should do, (Uh... yeah. That's exactly what they are taught from birth. Real nail-on-the-head characterization right there. -- NG) I'm hardly destroyed and wish you well in your quest to find a woman that thinks the sun shines out of your ass, as it is obviously your goal. (Hey, even if that really was my goal... really now, is that such a horrible goal to have? I mean, is it? This statement of hers has NOTHING to do with my goals and has everything to do with the diseased and bigoted attitudes of American women. Namely: whenever a man is treated with the amount of respect deserved by a human being, an American woman will think it equivalent to kissing his butt! Could this sort of nasty, man-hating attitude be among the major reasons that I don't care for them? Furthermore, in the next sentence she quotes the word "women" to hint that Japanese females are perhaps not real females. Borderline racist, isn't it? -- NG)

Also I must ask, do you make your "women" walk two steps behind you whenever you go out as that is the Asian way, which you seem to love so much. (Hmm let's see, how many women under the age of 70 have I seen around here walking two steps behind her man? That would be about... ZERO. For the total of 16 months that I've lived in Taiwan, how many women have I seen walking two steps behind her boyfriend whenever she goes-out? Oh, about... lessee... ZERO. How many have I seen in Hong Kong and China like that? ZERO. So, zero + zero + zero = the Asian way! Jinkies! She's scored a bulls-eye! -- NG)

As a rape victim myself, I also must comment on your take on "blaming the victim". (There's that word 'victim' again, twice in the same sentence. Maybe if it didn't tumble from a woman's lips so freely, I wouldn't be so unmoved by it. I'm afraid that my sympathy-button has a peice of sheet-metal welded over it right now, so it can't be pressed. -- NG) Most women who claim rape are actually victims of rape and for you to accuse them of merely having "second thoughts" makes you an ignorant pig (Which definition of 'rape' does she mean? The feminist doctrinal definition or the dictionary definition? If you accept that 'when a woman makes the accusation that she feels she has been raped' is the same thing as genuine rape, then ALL women who claim 'rape' have actually been 'raped'. Doublespeak in action. No, my point was not that rape is always imagined in a woman's mind, indeed rape is a horrible crime when it happens. Did she miss the bit where I condemned rape in the article on female sexism? My real point was that the legal definition of 'rape' has been stretched so far, the effect is to make the man vulnerable and the woman unaccountable in any kind of sexual situation. Maybe I'm totally out of line by saying this and I don't know the circumstances of how Suzy was 'raped'- but there is the possibility that for Suzy, perhaps the desire to have sex is not an act that gets approved by her thinking faculties before she does it? There is a good chance that she was actually raped as she claims, but all I'm saying is that it's possible for her to make false accusations and get-away with it because the legal openings are there for her to do so. What can I say? I wouldn't be so cynical and unsympathetic if women couldn't cry 'wolf' so often and afterwards proudly wear 'victim' as a badge. -- NG) and I'm sure you will fit in well in a country that supports women working in sweatshops and sells young girls as prostitutes as your attitude sucks, and well frankly, so do you. (There are prostitutes here? Hot-dog! Gotta get me some o' dat! -- NG)

I also wish to add that your "Why Men Suck" page does little to placate us, as you so obviously wished to do and you can just go to hell if you think we we will all just bow down and kiss your ass like you want a woman to do. (If she were to say this to me face-to-face, why do I get the impression that it would be accompanied by bared fangs, a lathered spittle-effect and a shrill, poodle-like yapping? -- NG)

We are not the manipulative bitches you make us to be (I must be receiving fictional stories from dozens of people, then! -- NG) and if we really wish to get into semantics, you men are just as bad, if not worse than us I mean, come on! Do you really think getting us drunk, not even looking at our faces when you tell us how beautiful we are and how much we look like Liv Tyler or Britney Spears or whatever and grabbing our breasts and grunting is going to make us sleep with you? (That actually seems to work with more American sorority chicks than you might imagine... -- NG) I should say not. Maybe you've been looking in the wrong places for women, because we are not all like what you have described. (Wow. She's got me there, I... *lip trembles*... I... *eyes water-over*... I'm so, so SORRY! I'm totally wrong about everything!! My world is falling apart!! *Explodes into tears* -- NG)

I have paid for dates before, I do not date scummy men, I don't have sex with just anyone. I am not looking for pity for anything, I can deal with my own imperfections and furthermore, I do not need a man to pay for anything I have. I do quite well on my own, thank you. (She is trying to prove her mettle to me here. It's so gosh-darned cute. -- NG)

I have had just about enough of your rantings about being a nice guy because a nice guy wouldn't take the actions of a few and base his opinions on that. (No, he'd be more forgiving in the face of female bullshit. Naturally, that'd be more to Suzy's liking. -- NG)

Ax for women treatment of you, your rant as EvilGuy tells me all I need to know. Your "sensitive man" act (and that is what it was) was just an act to get sex and we women do see through that, (Actually, being EvilGuy didn't come too naturally to me, it was an act into which I had to put-in a lot of effort. What, now that Single Mom Angelika is finally willing to sleep with men who don't have criminal records, I should accept the green light to help raise some other asshole's kid? -- NG) so we use you the way you use us. (Actually, I spent most of my adult life not getting a chance to use women for sex. But nonetheless, I still deserved to be 'used' before I went evil? What a scurrilous line of thought she has. -- NG) Pure and simple. And what you did to those single mothers was terrible and I know you will be severely punished someday for it, you pig and I hope it is soon!! (Why should I ever get punished for having sex when the opportunity is offered freely? Oink! -- NG)

I have a life, so I will be going, (Wonder why she feels the need to reassure me that she has a life? -- NG) but you just think about my e-mail the next date because it could be all women you're against.

(That one was simply spiffy, wasn't it? Chock-full of memorable witticisms like: "your attitude sucks, and well frankly, so do you" ZING! I sure learned my lesson today! Did I ever get my come-uppance with that one! It's not every day you see the perspicacity of a refrigerator poetry-magnet wordsmith mixed with a wit sharper than a rusty spoon. This letter truly expanded my horizons- because it made me realize just how many female sub-intellects there must be running-around the 50 states. -- NG)

Laughing the whole while, I send-back a reply:

Thank you for writing. As angry as your words may be, to me they are nothing more than another frying slice from the same old, tired sausage- an American chick fizzing and sputtering in her own juices...

>I am a 24-year old American woman who has just had the misfortune of stumbling upon your insipid excuse for a website

For such an insipid website, it certainly evoked a non-inspid response from you, didn't it? I must be doing something pretty darn right...

>and may I say that you are quite a piece of work? Blaming all American women for the actions of a few is really quite an ignorant thing to do.

Not all, just the majority of them.

>"Bestowing my kindness strictly on non-American women", are you? Go ahead, because you will not be missed by any of us.

Heh, I certainly hope not! The distaste is mutual, then. That's quite reassuring.

>And as for your exiling yourself from us American women, so you can surround yourself with Japanese women who are taught from birth that obeying a man's every command is what you should do, I'm hardly destroyed and wish you well in your quest to find a woman that thinks the sun shines out of your ass, as it is obviously your goal.
>
>Also I must ask, do you make your "women" walk two steps behind you whenever you go out as that is the Asian way, which you seem to love so much.

Your stereotypes are quaint, but a hallmark of ignorance. Tell me, in your mind, do Japanese have buck-teeth and say things like 'Velly Solly'? Modern Japanese women don't walk two-steps behind men anymore, and they are certainly not taught from birth to obey a man's every whim. That's your own prejudice talking, sweetie. It's women like you who mistake a lack of overt bitchiness to be a sign of weakness.

>As a rape victim myself, I also must comment on your take on "blaming the victim".Most women who claim rape are actually victims of rape and for you to accuse them of merely having "second thoughts" makes you an ignorant pig

Gee, it's too bad I don't have any sympathy for you, or else your statement might actually mean something to me.

>and I'm sure you will fit in well in a country that supports women working in sweatshops and sells young girls as prostitutes as your attitude sucks, and well frankly, so do you

That's right, I wanted to be in a land of sweatshops and prostitutes. Heh, your ignorance is really starting to show. Like sweatshops and prostitutes don't exist anywhere else in much larger quantities...
The truly oddest thing in your email is-- you castigate ME for making sweeping generalizations about American women, yet here you are making sweeping generalizations about a nation which really doesn't deserve your ire. Shame on YOU, ma'am. If you want to attack me, attack me. Don't attack a nation of 100 million people just because I'm in it. Utterly disgusting of you.

>I also wish to add that your "Why Men Suck" page does little to placate us,

I know. There is no way of pleasing you.

>as you so obviously wished to do and you can just go to hell if you think we we will all just bow down and kiss your ass like you want a woman to do.

Thats right, American chicks can kiss my ass. Exactly. (Laff!)

>We are not the manipulative bitches you make us to be...

(Grin) Hilarious. Simply hilarious. This statement is the truest laugh I've enjoyed today.

>and if we really wish to get into semantics, you men are just as bad, if not worse than us I mean, come on! Do you really think getting us drunk, not even looking at our faces when you tell us how beautiful we are and how much we look like Liv Tyler or Britney Spears or whatever and grabbing our breasts and grunting is going to make us sleep with you? I should say not. Maybe you've been looking in the wrong places for women, because we are not all like what you have described.

Gee, that sounds horrible. It sounds to me like the men YOU are attracted to treat you that way. It's just way too bad that you have a longer life-span, are protected to the hilt by a justice system that's stacked in your favor and are the only gender with ANY reproductive rights at all... all the while having the option to whine 'victim' whenever life gets too hard for you. What's more than that, you have to put-up with the heinous pain of having someone LOOK AT YOUR BOOBS when you're drunk!! The horror! THE HORROR!

>I have paid for dates before,

Yes, I'm sure you've done that once or twice. Very generous of you.

>I do not date scummy men, I don't have sex with just anyone. I am not looking for pity for anything, I can deal with my own imperfections and furthermore, I do not need a man to pay for anything I have. I do quite well on my own, thank you.

That's wonderful for you. You're only the 20th woman who's written me, claiming to be so independant... in order to claim a level of respectibility that is somehow supposed to lend more credibility to her letter. Your job and degree mean nothing to me, it's still extremely likely that you suck.

>I have had just about enough of your rantings about being a nice guy because a nice guy wouldn't take the actions of a few and base his opinions on that.

Exactly. No more Mr. NiceGuy for me. That has always been one of my main POINTS. And I'm sure you never make sweeping generalizations of men in your daily life.

>Ax for women treatment of you, your rant as EvilGuy tells me all I need to know. Your "sensitive man" act (and that is what it was) was just an act to get sex and we women do see through that, so we use you the way you use us. Pure and simple.

It wasn't only a mere 'act', it was an attempt to follow an idea which turns-out to be worthless: the idea of respecting women who do not deserve it. Silly me for EVER trying to respect American women.

Ahh yes, women SEE THROUGH the nice-guy act, you're all so clever! Women are clever enough to gravitate towards men who'll treat them like shit off the bat. That saves a step or two, no doubt.

>And what you did to those single mothers was terrible and I know you will be severely punished someday for it, you pig and I hope it is soon!!

Heh. Yes, I'm sure something very bad will happen to me some day. But if I follow my heart, it probably won't be a result of any of the chicks inhabiting your continent. I find great comfort in knowing that.

>I have a life, so I will be going, but you just think about my e-mail the next date because it could be all women you're against.

Yes your words will be on my mind constantly... as they make me grin. Love, -- NG

That was a fun distraction... but now, Avanti (a guy) writes:

Greetings. I love the site. You are an inspiration to us all. One story in particular really struck me because a similar thing happened to me. I am referring to the incident in which "Lying Whorebag" claimed to be pregnant with your child. I too faced this situation, but it was somewhat different. I had met this girl earlier this year and we had developed what I thought to be a very good relationship. I can honestly say that I thought I was in love with this woman, and perhaps foolishly I thought that she was in love with me. Then one day out of the blue I get this phone call from her from her work, and I immediately know that it is serious because she is usually not allowed to make any calls at her job. She tells me that we need to meet the next day because she has something important to tell me. I'm thinking "OK, maybe she won the lottery or something", but I never expected her to tell me what she did. The next day when we met she was all excited and with a big smile on her face said "Guess what...I'm pregnant!". I was shocked. "But what about the birth control that I got you?" I asked. "Oh, I stopped taking those after one week because they made me feel kind of sick and besides, I really want a baby" (Not her exact words. She really gave me like a ten minute rambling answer which basically said the same thing as the previous sentence) I really didn't want a baby at this point in my life, and I was pissed that she stopped taking her birth control without telling me, but I had a responsibility to take care of the kid and I would do whatever I had to do. Anyway, after that meeting I didn't see her for like a week, and she never even returned my messages. Naturally I was worried because here I am a potential father, I'm a complete nervous wreck, and I can't concentrate on anything, all the while my girlfriend is giving me the impression that she wants absolutely nothing to do with me. Then I get an e-mail from her that
basically says "Sorry I haven't talked with you in a while. I have been very upset and depressed because I found out that I wasn't really pregnant. I was a couple days late and I thought it was a sure thing, but I turned out not to be pregnant." (Ugh, I'm a guy and even I know that you don't automatically assume that being a few days late means you're pregnant! -- NG) Well, to be honest my feelings about this were mixed. On the one hand I was pissed that she had told me that she was pregnant when in fact she was not sure herself. On the other hand I was not going to have a kid right now, and that was a tremendous relief. When we finally got back together a few days later we had a long talk about the episode and I explained how I was relieved because I did not think we were ready for a child just yet. Neither of us had very good jobs and there would be no way we could support a kid. She became kind of upset at this notion and she kept telling me that she wanted a baby and she didn't care if we had no money because she grew up poor and turned out fine. (Indeed, she turned-out so totally fine that she's gonna have a kid without any planning beforehand. What further proof do you need? -- NG) After a few more weeks, this girl that I was in love with just broke up with me out of the blue for no real reason and never even talked to me again. I was heart broken for a while until I found out from her friend the real reason she dumped me and in fact, the real reason she dated me to begin with. It turns out that Jenny's (That was her name) lifelong dream was to have a baby and raise it by herself. She had been trying for a while and I was her latest victim. It seems that she planned to get pregnant and then leave me, which is what she originally tried to do that first week when she thought she was pregnant. All I was good for was to provide the sperm and then pay her child support for the next 18 years. She never wanted a boyfriend, only a baby. The reason she broke up with me was because I refused to try to give her a baby. (Uh... I'm totally speechless here. -- NG) The only reason her friend told me this was because she thought I was a really nice guy and did not deserve to be treated like that, and I should not go on feeling like shit over the breakup because it never would have lasted. I still can't believe that someone could be so manipulative and conniving as she had been. In her eyes I was nothing more than an object. She never considered my feelings or even tried to see my point of view. Women are so selfish and self serving I still can't believe it. (I swear, the dominant mindset of females is so densely self-absorbed that not so much as a glimmer of truth or rational thought can possibly squeeze through. It must be awful nice to spend your whole life living in your own little world where reality never pokes its ugly head-in. -- NG) This incident has really opened my eyes. I am still traumatized to the extent that I am fearful of asking women out because I don't want to end up in this situation again. However, I thank God every day that I got off relatively easy considering how screwed I would have been if she had indeed gotten pregnant. Thanks for taking the time to listen to my tale and I hope it serves as an example to all those in a relationship with a woman who is dead set on having a baby.

(Holy smokes! That chick is so self-centered, she must think the freakin' sun exists to keep her warm! I swear, all guys who are reading this right now should take a few minutes and lookit http://www.paternityfraud.com. Thank God that DNA-testing is finally starting to make some of these crooked female charlatans think twice nowadays. -- NG)

FerretWagon, (a guy) writes:

After reading your page...

American women are trying to emasculate men. They somehow equate non-masculinity w/ caring, being able to listen, etc. (Which is not the case.)

The fact of the matter is that if women are polite and allow men to say what they are thinking, then by default, men will return the favor. Damn it all, if women want men to listen and be interested in thigns like... dunno... clothing... then it has to work the other way. Oh, get out there and learn how to play basketball or something. It's fun. (Hey, I object to that statement... women can play basketball. The WNBA, for instance. Sure, there are no glass-shattering slam-dunks, but their games possess all the excitement of good fundamental skills, gosh-darn it! Snicker. -- NG)

They also seem to want someone who is obviously inferior. Hence, dating jerks, losers, and "bad boys." And if he isn't inferior, is truly a good person, these control freaks mess w/ a man's mind to try to bring him to his knees. Oh, he'll be on his knees, all right. But not out of love. He'll be there in total frustration, a kind of "Fuck it all, I give up." It is a sick way to try to dominate another human being.

(Heh! -- NG)

Gunther, (a guy), writes:

Hi there. I guess what brought me to your site is the rage of the typical American woman. I am totally on your side. It seems that women are kind of afraid to be in a relationship with a guy who really cares about them. At least the young ladies around my age (19) seems to be afraid that they will love someone who is nice to them. This degree of love will lock them in a relationship (of love) and they miss out on one of the favorite hobbies among American women: dating and dumping. (Yes, there's a kernel of truth in that. One time, a woman rejected me by saying 'no, I can't date you... because I might fall in love with you...' -- NG)

I also share your feelings on how I could be a great friend, just not in that way. I totally agree with you! I've been so tempted to tell those girls to go and ask their boyfriends to help them out. Near the end of my high school, I had about 6 female friends...not girlfriends...just friends. I've asked a few of them out, and was rejected.

I love how you express your thoughts about how the typical woman is....through writing. This is one of the ways I express my rage, though I haven't quite put them together in a website. With my luck It'll be one more reason women will say no to me.

Anyway, I'm glad to find a website whose author expresses the same ideas as I do. I hope that maybe can share some ideas on this whole thing, because not too many people here agree with me. Of course, they have girlfriends and are blinded by "love".

Once again, excellent website, and encourage the good work.

(Thanks! Unfortunately, I don't get to check email to the extent that would allow for useful information-sharing nowadays. -- NG)

Gunther later adds:

Am I stupid or what? After reading many of the essays on your site and thinking about what I've read, I still punish myself by being nice to women. I had to write this all down while it was still fresh in my mind. Well, the current time is 1:45 AM. I have finals at 7:30 AM. Never mind it being the 4th...this is summer school, holidays don't apply here. This girl that knows me (I hardly know her) is drunk. Hey, it's college, things like that happen. Since I'm sober (remember, finals in a few hours), she asks me if I could take her home. She asks me at about 11:30PM. From 11:30 to about 1:30, she's bullshitting all, as I'm patiently waiting to take her home. All I'm trying to do is be nice...I'm not out to look for a piece of ass or anything, even though many think the typical male is always after some action. Just being nice. So I wait. And wait. And wait. So what happens? She ends up staying with some asshole for the night. I told her that I had finals. It didn't seem to sink in. Basically, the conclusion that I draw from this situation is this: she is just some inconsiderate bitch, and I fell victim to her shit. I felt sorry for her, wanted to do something nice, and was sucked into the black hole of her shit. I'm big on consideration. People who are inconsiderate may as well just take a one way trip to hell for all I care. If she didn't want a ride home, she could have told me without making me wait for 2 hours. This is exactly what I expect of any American woman. Anyway, now that I'm done venting, I'm going to bed, and praying that I do well on my finals with the little sleep I'm going to get. Advise to all men: if you end up waiting for a woman for more than 15 minutes, just forget her and let her walk her ass home. Let some poor fool do what I did: be a victim of woman's inconsideration. I've learned from my mistake. Learn from mine and you don't have to make the same mistake.

(Indee