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And... Some New Reader Feedback A bit of feedback has accumulated in the ol' in-box while I was in transition to Japan. Unfortunately, I've been devoting a lot of time to work and play, so I haven't been able to update the ol' web-site much lately. And I haven't been able to respond in a timeliness to which I was previously accustomed. I'm sure that some critical readers might assume that everyone who agrees with me is part of a tiny cabal of spineless loser discontents. But some of the latest contributions have been gusty and hard-hitting and indicate an excellent diversity of experiences. And of course, the different points of view are invariably great to see. I even received a few more pieces of 'hate-male'... those are always good for a laugh or two. So, grab your Tupperware container of three-bean salad or a glass of Yoo-Hoo and enjoy the latest... *dramatic pause* reader feedback.
Lenny (a guy) writes: You are absolutely correct. The average American woman under the age of 35 is a BITCH. You (as a man) just need a little more experience in the art of when to say goodbye. (Heh, that used to be true. Now, I think I'm a lot better at not tolerating their bullshit any more. -- NG)
Stewie, (a guy) writes... excellent
site, keep it up. (Thanx! -- NG)
TheTick, (a guy) sends the following: Hey NiceGuy, First off, I can't believe how much sense your site makes. I thought I was insane for feeling the way I do about women... and when my female friends keep asking me why I don't ever have a girlfriend, they can never seem to accept my answers of "I've given up" or, "It's really not worth my time." It's nice to know it's not just me. Keep up the good work! Anyway,
a little about me. I'm 6'1", in decent shape, fairly funny, intelligent,
yada yada yada. Better than some, worse than some. Female friends tell me that
I am actually a pretty nice / good-looking guy, and fun to be around, etc (And
I'm pretty sure they're not lying through their teeth - most of them actually That said, let me tell you a bit about why I too have given up on American women. (Actually, I'd given up on all women, but your site gives me hope that all women aren't as bad as American women.) (Lookit the odds... American women are only 5% of the world's population of women. And they represent the bottom 5% in terms of quality. Odds are, she isn't good enough for you. Your chances can only improve once you leave the hostile dating environment that they've created for you. -- NG) In high school, I was incredibly shy. I only ever had a few dates, and no relationships to speak of. However, I had plenty of female friends, and, I was very attracted to one in particular, from the first day of freshman year onward. Let's call her Erica. Erica and I were pretty good friends. We spent an awful lot of time together (but not alone... we usually hung out in groups.) Over the four years of high school, Erica dated some absolute nutjobs. Suffice it to say, she was living proof of the "Girls Date Jerks" theory. I mean, one of them broke into her house after they broke up... But anyways. No matter how many dates I went on (which wasn't all that many, as I said), I couldn't stop thinking about her, and, by end of senior year, I was *very* in love with her. But I'd always thought she was way out of my league, so I never asked her out. So, graduation approaches, and I finally tell her how I feel. It turns out, she was kinda interested in me at one point, and probably would have gone out with me, if only I had said something. Anyway, this taught me to try. It also taught me that it completely sucks that men are (almost always) expected to do all the hard work of initiating relationships. A crappy "inequity" wasted what could have been at least four good years of my life. (Yes... you are expected the one to make the move by default. I consider that to be a sexist expectation, but women think that's just the way it should be. -- NG) Freshman year at college. Boy sees girl (let's call her Jen), boy (now) has the courage to ask girl out, girl says yes. We went out for about two months, happy as can be. (Hindsight shows that she was actually getting a bit more demanding, but, of course, I didn't notice it at the time.) The first major clue that I was in for some emotional damage was when her ex (of several years), Carter, came to town to visit. He didn't have a place to stay, and she offered. Naturally, I was a little queasy about it, but I agreed, because I trusted her, etc etc (I actually place way too much value on honesty, openness, and communication in relationships. Apparently, this places my standards way too high for most (American) women.) I figured, what the heck, if she liked him, he must not be that bad. A few days before he was due to arrive, Jen mentions that I "might not want to hang around here this weekend, Carter might get mad." Well, plans were already set, and, of course, I couldn't dictate her life (not that I had any right to, of course), so I mostly stayed in my room the entirety of Carter's visit. Jen seemed kinda withdrawn after Carter left. I donned the FreeTherapist Cape and tried to find out what was the matter, why she was so down, etc. (Over the relationship, I wasted WAY too much time in that Cape.) She never told me, but, later, her roommate told me that she had spent the entire weekend banging Carter. (I say drag her to the village square, tie her to a post, and stone the harlot into pulp! -- EvilGuy) I was devastated. I confronted her, and she initially denied it. Phew, I thought. Her roomate's a lying bitch. But no, Jen later confessed to the entire sordid weekend. I was pretty pissed, even more so than when I first found out (see the value of honesty, above). She slept with Carter and then lied to me about it, as if she thought there were no consequences whatsoever! After a few weeks, I forgave her. I loved her, right? A few more weeks went by. She started to become very distant. Not even Captain FreeTherapist could help. (Yes. Next time you ever EVER have to be Captain FreeTherapist, push the bitch away and tell her to take a damn walk until she figures-out why she's a stupid whore! -- EvilGuy) It turns out, she was being distant because she was attracted to one of my good friends (Don). Turns out she slept with him. I was pissed again, but I forgave both her and Don. At this point, most of my friends are telling me I'm an idiot. (And yes, I was.) (Well, we're all brilliant with the benefit of retrospection, aren't we? -- NG) A few more weeks pass by, and she starts spending more time with one of my other (supposedly good) friends (Dave) than me. You know, doing all the (non intimate) bf/gf stuff *I* was supposed to be doing with her... like going to movies, hanging out in her room alone late at night... etc. I got concerned, but she kept telling me "I can spend time with my friends if I want to." It's nice that she said "friend(s)", but, by all accounts, she was with Dave 24/7. I had to hear via her dormmates that she was banging him constantly, while never actually bothering to tell me that we'd broken up. (She maintained the illusion that we were still together. Looking back, it was a pretty crappy illusion, but oh well.) (Anyone care for a Lying Nutball? -- NG) Dave always assured me that nothing was going on, and, blindly, I believed him. Push comes to shove (mostly after I find out about all of the above), and I finally confront her. She said (approximately, I was so unbelievably pissed off) "I just wanted to see what it would be like to date Dave, and then I'd've chosen which one of you was going to be my boyfriend." WTF??? A prime example of how women think men are pretty much emotionless beasts. (Men are interchangeable, easily-replaced pieces of meat in their minds. -- NG) If she would've been honest and told me she might want to consider seeing other people, I would've backed off much earlier, if not broken up entirely. Now, maybe I was an idiot and I brought all this upon myself for continuing to stay with her, but a little female honesty would have saved me months of being dragged through emotional hell. It's just recently, nearly seven years later, that I've finally dumped all the emotional baggage I got from Jen. Morals of the stories: A) As you say, women demand equality yet live with ridiculously unfair expectations of men. B) (Most American) women are Lying Whorebags. (Heh. -- NG) Thanks for letting me vent... (No prob! -- NG)
Terminus (a guy) writes: About the 7'th Grade Lying Bitch story, I've met one in my town. This girl wasn't NEARLY on the scale that the other was, but it's still pretty sad. She's a pretty face, I'll give her that, but no credibility at all. The girl made up ALL sorts of lies about EVERYONE on stage, ranging from "She says you're a terrible actor..." to "He tried to touch me there backstage!" On one occasion, she cried her eyes out, supposedly, over how she was the only one who didn't get flowers. The truth was, a local minister had ordered those for everyone from his church, namely everyone but two other girls and our favorite little 7'th grader. The girl's mother called the director and started raving about how "her little girl is alays getting picked on and such, blah blah blah, please shoot me and my kid, blah blah blah...". Needless to say, our world is ****ed if things like this continue. (Weird! Yikes. Make sure you give her a wide berth. Yes, that chick behaves like a petulant, bratty 5-year old. In short- she'll be a woman soon. -- NG)
Tanna, (a woman from New Zealand) writes... I have just
come across your site, and wanted to say how much I enjoyed it. Ok, Im on a bit
of a "all men are bastards" mission at the moment (yes even the nice
guys are capable of this), but it heartened me to know that men do actually suffer
from the same sort of treatment women tend to receive...... I always presumed
they were incapable of feeling ........... (Boo freakin'
hoo! This statement of hers only proves a point... a woman judges a man's emotional
expressions based on how his expressions make her feel, and she never thinks
about what his emotions actually mean. Men expressing feelings may be a
means to an end... but women consider evoking a man's emotional expression to
be the end in itself. If she evokes emotion in a man to the point that cries,
then she'll think she's accomplished something. But she also won't give a shit
about what he's actually crying about- it's the tears that matter more. On top
of that, an angry woman is allowed to show her emotions by ranting and raving...
but that same woman will also demand her man to keep a level head when he’s
angry, so as not to upset her. -- NG)
Uhh... Thanks? I reply... Thanks for writing.. >I have just come across your site, and wanted to say how much I enjoyed it. OK, IM on a bit of a "all men are bastards" mission at the moment (yes even the nice guys are capable of this), but it heartened me to know that men do actually suffer from the same sort of treatment women tend to receive...... I always presumed they were incapable of feeling ........... Well, I'm glad to be of service, if only to prove to you that men *can* actually feel pain. It's not that men are incapable of having feelings... on the contrary, men typically have very complex feelings. The world doesn't exactly throw flowers at us, you know. We're socialized to internalize our feelings because the world doesn't rush to our aid when we air our emotions. Oh, women get plenty of sympathy when they talk about their complaints; men are simply told (by both women *and* other men) to shut-up and deal with it. I know this is true, because I've experienced it quite a lot myself. 'Sensitive' men soon learn that no one will bring any meaningful help. If men magically became more sensitive and nothing else changed in our lives, all we would feel is *more pain*. That is why men seem 'insensitive' to you. We have to be that way. >p.s Ill say hi to the sheep for Miles......I hear that they have been missing him I'm sure he'll appreciate that info.. I'll pass it along. -- NG
Needing to show me wrong, Tanna writes back... >It's
not that men are incapable of having feelings... on the contrary, men typically
have very complex feelings. So much so,
that no woman can ever interpret the signs/signals that are being sent by a man
(ohh... except "shag me" , but I expect thats a pretty easy one to figure
out) >The world doesn't throw flowers
at us, you know. yeah, still waiting for
that one to happen to me (This
statement of hers could be construed as a hallmark of narcissism... that
she might actually be vain enough to expect the world to throw flowers
at her... But it's also so hard to tell if she's being sarcastic or serious. I'd
assume sarcastic. -- NG) >We're socialized to internalize our feelings because the world doesn't rush to our aid when we air our emotions. Oh, women get plenty of sympathy when they talk about their complaints; men are simply told (by both women *and* other men) to shut-up and deal with it. Try being a woman who doesn't
share her emotions. That tends to get the men running faster than any performance
enhancing drug! (The irony in this goes without saying:
a peculiarly grinchy chick on an 'all men are bastards' mission who is mystified
as to why men find her none-too charming. -- NG) >I
know this is true, because I've experienced it quite a lot myself. 'Sensitive'
men soon learn that no one will bring them any meaningful help. help? (And the email ended abruptly like that. Her game is to prove that she's probably suffering more than any man ever could. Oh, how I'm weeping for her. -- NG)
Obliged to point-out the ridiculous core of her statements, here is my (paraphrased) response... If you've been waiting a long time for my response, it is because my time was being absorbed by more pressing engagements... >So much
so, that no woman can ever interpret the signs/signals that are being sent by
a man (ohh... except "shag me" , but I expect thats a pretty easy one
to figure out) Ugh, a woman claiming that men give mixed signals is truly the pot calling the kettle black... Good Lord, did you ever write the wrong person if you thought you might find a sympathetic ear! (Chuckle.) Naturally, you get upset when his needs for emotional intimacy don't coincide with your arbitrary decisions of what his optimum level of emotion should be. Only you know what's best for him, I guess! (Shakes head exasperatedly) There's a certain amount of hubris needed for you to think that a man shouldn't be in charge of showing his own emotions, for chrissakes. No matter how much you wish that a man might show his emotions more readily, the fact of the matter is you only want a man to show emotions when it's convenient for you, and you want to control the agenda and topic matter when it does happen. At any other time, you don't really want to be burdened with his petty whinings and expect him to be tough enough to take care of his own problems or else he lacks backbone in your eyes. You also mentioned how you consider yourself as being someone who appears to be insensitive- that doesn't exactly inspire warm & fuzzy feelings in others, does it? A man will talk when you become willing to listen without ridiculing him if his feelings don't rub you the right way; and insensitive women don't exactly accommodate those men who do show their emotions. I think you should instead direct your accusations closer to home on this issue. And on the flippant 'shag-me' comment: for every statement by a woman about how men try to get sex out of her, a man can make an equally valid statement about how women are always trying to squeeze emotion out of him. Men know that women are always ready to jump into our heads and fuck with our thoughts... don't assume that just because you like thrusting and probing, he has to like it too. And here's an idea... when a man reveals his innermost secrets to you, don't rush-off to the phone and tell all your friends about it. >>The world doesn't throw flowers at us, you know. >Yeah, still waiting for that one to happen. Truly odd. Last I heard from Miles, in NZ you could live with your boyfriend for 2 years, break-up, and have a right to help-yourself to half his stuff on your way out the door. That sounds like a pretty decent flower that the world has thrown at you. Naturally, it's useless for you to tell me that you don't enjoy a good-sized portfolio of 'women-only' perks. >Try being a woman who doesn't share her emotions. That tends to get the men running faster than any performance enhancing drug! I have no way of knowing if that is how you are, but I'll give you the benefit of the doubt. You could be absolutely, 100% right about how your self-diagnosed insensitivity makes you entirely unattractive to men. It could be totally and uncontrovertibly true that a woman such as yourself might cause a male to be instinctively repelled... But there's at least one exception to your statement about what makes men run their fastest... a man can yet run just a LITTLE bit faster to get-away from a woman who is on a self-described "all men are bastards" crusade. >Help? Help? Yes 'help', linked to '...if nothing else changed in our lives' in the sentence immediately afterwards. If a sensitive man is having issues, will people ever do something to accommodate him, or will they basically shrug it off?... In short, it is often a waste of effort for men to express themselves because it largely won't make a meaningful impact on their lives. I appreciate your patience, and have a good summer. -- NG
Suddenly, drivel appears in my in-box: You win! All women are horrible horrible people. But face it sweetheart, you still love us and want us in your world........ what else would you have to spend all your time, money and effort on?? And vice versa also. So suck it up, and admit defeat. You will never be completely happy without a woman in your life (evil chuckle) (Can you hear the meatloaf song "Paradise by the dashboard light" playing in the background? (Uh... no, I don't. However she does make me feel like prayin' for the end of time. -- NG) I can. god women are that good!!! tehehehe) (I hope this kid doesn't choke on her lollipop... -- NG)
My Undeserved Reply... >You win! All women are horrible horrible people. But face it sweetheart, you still love us and want us in your world........ what else would you have to spend all your time, money and effort on?? Oh, pursuit of enlightenment probably... At the very minimum I could better-use my efforts in the pursuit of uncorrupted non-western women. > And vice versa also. So suck it up, and admit defeat. You will never be completely happy without a woman in your life (evil chuckle) (Can you hear the meatloaf song "Paradise by the dashboard light" playing in the background? I can. God women are that good!!! tehehehe) You sound a bit too sure of yourself there... Thanks for assuring me how utterly dependent my happiness is on your gender. -- NG
Oblivious to the fact that she's banging-out gobbledygook at this point, Tanna decides to discredit herself yet more... >>You win! All women are horrible horrible people. But face it sweetheart, you still love us and want us in your world........ what else would you have to spend all your time, money and effort on?? >Oh, pursuit of enlightenment probably... At the very minimum I could better-use my efforts in the pursuit of uncorrupted nonwestern women. and where would the fun be in that???? Nasty bitchy mind fucking women are so much more enjoyable! >> And vice versa also. So suck it up, and admit defeat. You will never be completely happy without a woman in your life (evil chuckle) (Can you hear the meatloaf song "Paradise by the dashboard light" playing in the background? I can. God women are that good!!! tehehehe) >You sound a bit too sure of yourself there... IM a cocky wee thing aren't I!!! > Thanks for
assuring me how utterly dependent my happiness is on your gender... (Is that last line supposed to be an incredibly dumb insult, or inadvertent incrimination of her own vainglorious self-image? Another question she doesn't explore is: are males less fortunate because we're genetically inferior... or are we less fortunate because we have to tolerate females like her? In case you haven't noticed: her statements have been degrading more and more with each email, as if she's slowly losing the ability to speak in her native tongue. -- NG)
Nonetheless, must stop wasting my time on this graceless drip: >and where would the fun be in that???? Nasty bitchy mind fucking women are so much more enjoyable! Perhaps. I can see now why Miles started dating a Thai girl. >IM a cocky wee thing aren't I!!! Truly, you're not restrained by modesty or shame of any type. >My pleasure! I am, afterall a woman whos main goal in life is to give happiness to those less fortunate than myself, namely the male species! And we appreciate your spirit of altruism, however transparent it may be. -- NG (*Shakes
head* I got a reply to my last response... but she flew beyond the event horizon
and shucked-off lucidity altogether. She sent a curt note containing a few blathering
sentence fragments and verbal mush... like beads without a string. Posting the
message in its entirety would be a waste of space here, but I'll boil it down:
Miles is dating a Thai girl because he must want a woman who is 'out
of the 50ies', so he and I are both in the 'wrong
century'. She tries to shoot from the hip, but her gun jams... seeing as
how Miles' girl is in the process of getting her masters' degree in computer science
in an Australian university. Oh, that is so straight-out of the
1950s! *Snicker* Tanna is plainly ethnocentric (or perhaps even prejudiced)
to the point where she assumes that Thai women are nowhere as capable and
urbane as she. They must be 50 years behind her- a superior western chick.
Well she's a haughty western chick, at least. I'll give her that.
Anyway, Back to More Sensible Contributions: Mercer (a previous contributor) writes... Hope things are going well for you in Japan. Michiko sounds like she's a NG - NiceGirl... (Yes she is. Alas- she's married. -- NG) Incidentally, I saw an episode of HBO's "Taxicab Confessions" a few weeks ago. They were in Las Vegas. I've been there, so I recognized the scenery through the back window of the cab. This brown-haired bitch - there's no other way to describe her - was talking to the poor male cabbie about how she has boyfriends all over the US. She basically travels and lives off them. She's a whore - a traveling whore. She said her BF in Vegas gave her $500 cash for the day and bought her $2000 worth of clothes. That's just one day/one sucker.... She deserves to live in a box under a bridge. Instead, she strings these guys with her pussy as merchandise and lives off them like a leech. Some of her BF - "victims" - make over $150,000/yr....blah....blah....blah..... <<insert sound of teacher from 'Charlie Brown' here - Wa-Wa--wa-wa-WA-wa-Waaaaaaaa........>> (Laff! -- NG) The one guy in Vegas makes the most.... "Do you love him?", asks the cabbie. "No.", she says, so matter-of-factly. "I love this other guy, though. He and I have great sex." Fucking bitch - she shouldn't say "love". That's not "love". He's great at fucking the shit out of you and satisfying your petty animalistic desires and urges, so that's "love". Not that he treats you well or cares about you. Oh - but you wouldn't enjoy the sex so much if he didn't have money like all the others, would you?? Because you're a W-H-O-R-E. In fact, you wouldn't even waste your time having him as a BF He wouldn't have had a CHANCE to even get to 1st Base with you.... (Whoa dude... Mercer got really pissed by this chick! -- NG) If you've seen the show, you know the view is from the cabbie back. ('Fraid not. I never got HBO. Mainly because I didn't want to inadvertently catch a glimpse of Sex in the City. -- NG) I swear - I could almost HEAR this poor guys' thoughts - "Christ! Here I am a fucking cabbie in Vegas, barely making enough to survive and pay my fucking bills while YOU - a fucking WHORE - get these ASSHOLES to support you - and you're PLAYING all of them!" "Just get this fucking fare over with. Get the bitch to where she's going as fast as possible and get her out. Jesus....get her the fuck out of my cab.....Un-fucking believable..." I also read some pages from "SexPloytation" and I think that only validates my comments to you before. He explains succintly what I sometimes struggle to express. Between the admins with the Saab and Mercedes, the "Soccer Moms" at my Big 5 Accounting firm who work 2 days in the office and the rest at home via a Flextime schedule, women are gold-digging WHORES. (Actually, whores are a lot more honest- at least an official whore doesn't take payments for sex and then deny that she's accepting payments... Also, an official whore doesn't accept her client's money and insist afterward that she's still his equal! ROTFL! -- NG) So glad I sweared them all off. Basically, as far as they go, especially the Admins, they should all be 3-wayed, with a bigass dildo bringing-up the rear. That's it. No gifts. No money. Treated like the whores they are. And, because they are whores, they'd probably enjoy that shit... But, I digress. The funny part is that I occasionally am approached by girls who probably would like a NG. They try and stike up a conversation by saying something dumb. I usually reply. They come visit at my cube. I talk to them....blah...blah.....blah.... I think they like my demeanor because I don't gush all over them. In reality, I could care a shit less what they do. I am always professional and obliging at work - to anyone. So - seeing this, they assume I'm available and wait for me to make some move. I don't. They're just dumbfounded. They don't understand how much I don't want to know anything about their lives or ex bfs or friends, or that they're feeling bloated or fat, having their period, seeing an old friend from college over the weekend....Whatever. I don't care. That's right ladies. I don't care. I wouldn't care if you were bleeding on the ground in front of me. Older women DO seem to like me...Should I sleep with them?? 75 percent are MARRIED!! Well, after much thought, the answer is YES. I would enjoy it and so would they...Just a harmless fling.... And at least they seem to APPRECIATE the attention and make a man feel like a man.... Another woman at my firm always made a point of starting a conversation with me and then walking in front of me, wearing heels and a slit skirt. She just kept wagging her hips in that suggestive way.... Very endearing. I bet if I stayed longer I would've given in to the urge... (Whoa there, space-man! I dunno what planet you're from, but on Planet America a female has the ability to get you fired for looking at her ass no matter how much she shows it off. Careful! -- NG) The admin at my firm who is dating a dentist though - 6 months after breaking up with her husband - takes the cake. She's a bigtime "Dishonest whore". Didn't take her long to hook up, did it? And get this...She's living with her MOM b/c hubby kicked her out. I asked - "why not live with your BF?" "Oh..no. I can't do that." Why? Just like SexPloytation explained, holding out her "gift" - pussy - for the ring BUT still being a whore and taking gifts. I bet the guy (SCHMUCK) doesn't care that she's living with Mommy. As long as he thinks he's going to get a piece of ass, he's cool with that. Moron. Don't come back here if you find a girl. Hell, stay there. (Yes, witness how Mi-Jun acted when she came to a "free" country. -- NG) My brother is in the Army JAG (Korea) and says that women there "just want someone good". See the difference?? Even he knows the score. He is married to a girl he met in law school, but he's again in Korea on duty. He's not an idiot. Take care. (Thanx! -- NG)
Erika, (a self-described 'sexist bitch') writes... i suppose any normal sexist bitch would find this offensive by why should i? it's the truth . will i change because of it? afraid not. i'm having way too much fun to bother,but you do have some good points and i probably would've killed you if you hadn't put done that guys suck link. good job. (Hah! Maybe this was supposed to rub me the wrong way, but it didn't. Mainly because it's an admission of how even a proudly self-centered, sexist, blissfully ignorant bitch can see that I speak the truth. So who am I to disagree?? But still- the distinct lack of depth and maturity in this email makes me wonder about the source. I saw no need to dignify her statement with a serious rebuttal as it would only serve to feed the gratification she clearly derives from being a piss-ant. At the same time, I also can't help but wonder how she could've possibly 'killed' me though- by closing her eyes and wishing really hard? -- NG)
KeyBiz (A guy) writes... If you were in the United States
right now at this minute I'd swear you were R, my 27 year old brother. I'm K,
33 years old. I have two younger brothers, R (27) and M (24) (Cool! Thanks! -- NG)
Cooper (a guy) writes: I would first like to say that I found your site a couple of weeks ago, since that time I've probably read the majority of it and I have to say that it's great, while being really very bitter sweet. I know what you mean, and can relate to a great deal of what you've been through, as I also consider myself to be a nice guy and have found myself on the losing end of to many relationships. First of all I'd like to thank you for having the guts to post such a site even though it's probably been tough for you to recall the times of pain in your life. (Heh, quite true... -- NG) secondly I have to mention that the games don't really stop after women age beyond 40. I'm a 50 year old divorced male, that had, at least for awhile, the idea of finding a soul mate (whatever that means), someone to talk to, plan our life's together with, laugh, cry and just in general be my partner, friend and lover. I don't believe she's out there anymore, I'll try to explain better. Eight years ago when my second marriage ended (very brief herstory; 1st marriage ended when she admitted to sleeping with and left me for the downstairs neighbor while I was away on maneuvers in the army) I thought that I'd go out and find a woman that really appreciates have a faithful, hardworking, niceguy in her life (LAUGH) boy was I surprised. The first experience was 1-1/2 years spent with a woman who ended our relationship by saying that she needed someone with MORE money and no children, I guess I just wasn't spending enough money on her! (after buying 2 sets of earrings costing 300 dollars each?) (Nahh. If she was a hot woman, she'd consider that amount to be the hallmark of a cheapskate. The hotter a woman is, the more likely she is to think and act like a mercenary parasite. -- NG) next came a woman who I dated for 6 months, at the end of that period she told me not to call anymore or come around (out of the blue!!!! she laughed with me and told me she loved me the night before) a few weeks later I found out that her ex boyfriend who had left her for another woman had come back and she wanted to be with him more. Funny, 3 months later she started calling me back wanting to be friends and to see me occasionally ( go figure????) then finally I met a woman I thought I could really build a life with, she was divorced with a ten year old daughter (at the time my son was ten and my daughter 13) I was willing to be the step dad, plus her daughter even thought it was a good idea. but suddenly the mom told me that she just wasn't able to love me the way that I needed her too????????? I guess being supportive, being able to converse, and really being in a committed relationship was beyond her capabilities ( once again, go figure???). (Sanity isn't a female virtue. Virtue isn't a female virtue either, come to think of it. Especially not when they consider marriage to be a matter of trading sex for security. -- NG) Anyway I just wanted to tell you that I really enjoy your site and I hope that you have good luck, find peace and maybe even a woman to love and to love you back while you are in Japan. Please keep updating your site as I've found it enlightening as well as a bit sad that there are so many of us guys out there wanting the same thing. Who would have ever thought that finding a good mutually fulfilling relationship with a woman would be so hard? Take care. Keep up the good work, maybe someday we'll all find what we're looking for. (Thanks! I hope so too... but it certainly won't happen if the 'fairer' gender keeps insisting on acting like a circus of insolent, bigoted poo-flingers. -- NG)
Sarah, (a woman) writes: hey ng, (I thanked her for the warning... But seeing as how she's already been married for 7 of the 10 years needed for a slice of hubby's future earnings, it's safe for us to assume she'll stick-around for 3 more years at the bare minimum. I'm sure this woman will appear to be a tolerable wife for the next 3 years, and then the inevitable reality of the 45% statistic will start to kick-in. -- NG)
Mr_Blond (a guy) lobs this Molotov cocktail: First off, you carp on and on about wanting "love" and all that bullshit....yet it seems that most of your sexual encounters involved everything BUT love....And you also bitch about women just wanting sex, yet here you are indulging them....or rather, indulging the ENEMY, in basically the same manner that ol' Johnny Walker did the Taliban.... (Ahahahaha! Now there is a real jingoistic stretch for you! And so reflective of the national knee-jerking, too! Good lord, did I ever enjoy a hearty laugh at that one... -- NG) Now don't get me wrong, I know what you're going through, I've been there myself(at least in the "hating women" dept.), but still, nontheless, you contradict yourself in alot of places, with alot of statements. (Same old 'you're a hypocrite' diatribe. Hoo boy, how many more times do I have to apologize for a side-effect of trying to coexist alongside a serially self-contradictory sex!?! Am I not allowed to be a even a small hypocrite when confronted with the paradoxical mating rules of a gender that is as irrevocably baffling and nonsensical as the menstruating one? Does this link about my hypocrisy not explain ANYTHING at all to anyone?! -- NG)
And not only that, you bitch like a little schoolgirl, as if you've NEVER had companionship in your entire pathetic life!!! HELLO jackass, there's guys out there who have it muuuch worse than you! I mean hell, a shit-colored retard like myself couldn't even get a blind whore to fuck him!! Hell, I got my first kiss 4 years ago, at the age of TWENTY-TWO!! And guess what.....THE CUNT WAS ONLY LEADING ME ON!!! SHE NEVER EVEN LOVED ME!!! Gimme' a fuckin' break....and just quit your fucking belly aching already!!! (My God he... he's worked himself into a mouth-foaming frenzy like some Viking-age berserker! -- NG)
In short, as much as i respect a great deal of, but not all of, your opinions. You strike me as a spoiled little whiney-ass son of a bitch. GET OVER YOURSELF already!! (And a good day to you, too. -- NG)
Naturally, how can I resist responding? <<Insert x-tra whiny tone here, if it suits me.>> Ahh, such sweet invective you hurl... thank you for writing. I'm very glad to see that you respect many of my opinions. In fact, I don't think it's inaccurate to suggest that we agree far more often than we disagree... but the things that anger you the most about me appear NOT to be my core messages, but rather my oft-clumsy means of expressing it. Yes, many men have it worse than me... but misery loves company. You don't expect me to deprive these worse-off souls of the simple solace offered by commiseration, do you? >First off, you carp on and on about wanting "love" and all that bullshit....yet it seems that most of your sexual encounters involved everything BUT love.... Well, if my sexual encounters are indeed the thing that piss you off the most... then yes, it certainly might seem the way you described... and only if you look at a fraction of the picture. Consider this: I did try to build relationships out of most of my sexual encounters, yet it was often the women who wanted nothing of it. (Ree-LAY-shun-ship? What mean this word, 'relationship', NiceGuy?) I wanted to have meaningful and stable relationships with quite a few of these women, but not 100% of them. But it also certainly wasn't an issue where I approached every one of them with a "screw 'em/leave 'em" mentality. For example, I did everything I could to hold-together my engagement with Whorebag, to no avail. >And you also bitch about women just wanting sex... Actually, I think I mainly bitch about women wanting anything that suits their fancy at that particular moment in time, except not wanting to pay for any of it. >...yet here you are indulging them.... Also wanted to indulge myself a bit, too... >...or rather, indulging the ENEMY, in basically the same manner that ol' Johnny Walker did the Taliban.... Hah, yes... compare me to John Walker! Actually, I'm a bit disappointed in your description of me... Walker was just cannon-fodder, a mere foot-soldier. Why couldn't you go the extra stretch and compare my past sexual encounters as Quisling's career with the Nazis? That is *far* more colorful hyperbole with which you can paint me as collaborationist scum, and it associates me with a force of bad-guys even more vile than the Taliban... >Now don't get me wrong, I know what you're going through, I've been there myself(at least in the "hating women" dept.), but still, nontheless, you contradict yourself in alot of places, with alot of statements. Your criticism is received and understood, but I wish you'd have taken more time to examine my Top Ten Criticism page before writing to inform me that my writings are contradicting...
>And not only that, you bitch like a little schoolgirl, as if you've NEVER had companionship in your entire pathetic life!!! HELLO jackass, there's guys out there who have it muuuch worse than you! I mean hell, a shit-colored retard like myself couldn't even get a blind whore to fuck him!! Hell, I got my first kiss 4 years ago, at the age of TWENTY-TWO!! And guess what.....THE CUNT WAS ONLY LEADING ME ON!!! SHE NEVER EVEN LOVED ME!!! Gimme' a fuckin' break....and just quit your fucking belly aching already!!! It's gratifying to hear that you don't care for the behavior of the 'fairer' sex either. But me expressing outrage and frustration (or 'fucking belly aching', as you high-handedly call it) is neither bereft of therapeutic effects nor entertainment value. I invite you to submit writings of your own to help underscore what you might like to see expressed... >In short, as much as i respect a great deal of, but not all of, your opinions. You strike me as a spoiled little whiney-ass son of a bitch. GET OVER YOURSELF already!! At this point, I think it might be a grand idea for you to send-in a story of your experiences. It sounds like you've got quite a few years of anger to inspire whatever work you might care to submit. And naturally, you are not under any obligation to do so if you feel you're not up to the task... it is, alas, much easier to tear-down and nit-pick than it is to take the risk of presenting one's own creativity to the world. Thanks for writing. -- NG (Well, I'm glad he at least agrees with most of my points... when he accepts my invitation to send me something meaningful in the future, I'll certainly post it. -- NG)
Marucha (a woman who fancies herself as a bit of a philosopher) sends me on an Odyssey through pointlessness: I am reading a book called The Road Less Traveled by Scott Peck. One point Peck made regarded suffering. Suffering is not an enjoyable feeling and many people seek to avoid it, rather than deal with it or confront it head on. Avoiding suffering is the basis of mental disorders according to Peck. Since few Humans are ultimately loving to themselves and to others, are honestly and realistically self-reflective, and are pro-active, most don't accept suffering and move on, but avoid it. Therefore, most Humans have a mental disorder to some degree according to Peck, and it is only classified as a disorder when it becomes severe. Most people have re-curring problems and issues: that is their disorder. (Ooookay... Not exactly a 'hello', but it tries to function as an equivalent to a greeting. -- NG) I believe that we all have problems. That much of life is unfair and that many people are selfish and inadvertantly or advertantly hurt themselves, you or others. To generalize an entire population of females, you must be somewhere between partially or entirely right because they are evidences that you have repeatedly found. However, are their other evidences that you are turning a blind eye to? (Ahh, everything here is just bias-filtered observation. Selective perception. I just see what I want to see. No, I couldn't possibly be right. She will dismiss the idea of my validity as her first instinct. -- NG) Are there evidences in your own sex that you are not exploring or have not examined? And are you looking for all facts, or just that facts that confirm your bias? (Yes, she likes throwing unanswerable questions in peoples' paths... -- NG) A few more things: The things that you are noticing about woman seem exterior to me. (She doesn't really explain what she means by 'exterior'. Does she mean 'looks'? Or maybe she means how I talk about the myriad ways in which women try use their vaginas to scam stuff out of the world? That's 'exterior', isn't it? -- NG) Looking at the root of their problem or reason for functioning in that way helps to create sympathy and understanding. Maybe that's not what you want to create though. (I see... we all need more sympathy and understanding for women, then everything will magically be all better. Do I again need to point-out a paradox that ranks among the grandest ironies of females? Namely: if you are the type of male who sympathizes with and understands female pain- then women will not find you attractive. My God, are males the only people who are aware of this?? -- NG) Human Beings: We are all living this same experience called LIFE. What makes each of us different, is not the clothes we wear or how we look, it is our perceptions, or our filter of our experiences, and also our responses of how we deal with them. I don't believe the issue has to do with men or women or unfairness or fairness. It has to do with perceiving things in the way that makes us truly happy and at peace. Or being proactive to take personal power and change the things within our capability to create internal happiness. (Can't we all just... just... get-along?!? <<Insert 'We Are The World' playing in background>> -- NG) This is a quote my girlfriend sent me: "The reason that I don't like some people is not so much because of the personal characteristic of that person, it's more because I let them get to me which makes me dislike myself which makes me dislike them. You know the saying, "the thing you don't like about someone is the thing that you don't like about yourself"? I think that it's not the personally about them that you don't like in yourself it's more of what that person brings out in you that you don't like. (I think that saying is totally disconnected with many aspects of reality. So... by that line of reasoning, anti-racists don't like racists because anti-racists are actually racists?? *Blink* Huh?? -- NG) What you feel about yourself is what is shown to those around you. In order to love everything around you have have to first love everything inside of you." Pasted below is an essay that I wrote about
perception. Of course since preception is subjective, I am leaning towards Zen
philosophies. (When I saw the word 'Zen', I just-about laughed my butt-off. I swear- people will quote Zen without knowing anything about how or why the sect formed in the first place. In one famous example, Zen Buddhism likens the human mind to a muddy puddle... the more you think, the more you stir-up the mud. Only by turning your brain-off, will the mud settle and will the water become clear. Zen is perhaps the most anti-intellectual Buddhist sect on the planet, one which advocates cultivating superior mental power through not thinking. I think the western interest in sensationalistic Zen was best explained by the American psychologist and scholar Ken Wilder in his 1983 peice Up From Eden: "This was perfectly prefigured in the 'Dharma Bum' period of the Sixties, when an influential number of otherwise highly intellectual people... began championing typhonic, narcissistic, regressive freedom from the ego level, through pre-egoic license, while intellectually claiming to be actually pursuing the trans-egoic Zen of spontaneous freedom... and thus managed to front an undeniable rationalization for their regress to Eden." The goal of Zen is to achieve perfect, blissful imbecility. -- NG) (Anyway, after this point, she attaches a rambling mixture of seemingly random questions and cryptic adages. It was a long, long list of open-ended homilies to underscore the idea that relying on facts are ultimately useless and that true answers spring from compassion. Hers is a lovely view of the world to be sure, but it is not one I intend to structure my life around because I like thinking too darn much and I prefer to live a life based in reality. Here is a random set of out-takes: "Is it okay to kill an animal? “Well, for food.” Why should an animal be killed for food? Because we need to eat their flesh? Is it for protein?" or "How does this world work, really? What is a driving factor? What motivates people? Really, is that so? Why do you think that? You do realize, that that is just your perception of it." or "What inside of you is going on so that you don’t love everything? And is it strange to love everything? Why? How would You work better if you did love everything? How would your life work better? Your home? Your community? Your universe?" Like many Zen-inspired essays, hers lacked a substantial point. Personally, I think it's so gosh-darned cute that she's trying so hard to be profound. -- NG)
My response to her wandering, switch-backed highway to nowhere... Thank you for writing... I spent about half an hour trying to carefully scrutinize every word you've written... And now, I have an overwhelming desire to get those wasted minutes back somehow. I am reading a book called The Road Less Traveled by Scott Peck. One point Peck made regarded suffering. Suffering is not an enjoyable feeling... Yup, that *would* be the definition of suffering all right! ...and many people seek to avoid it, rather than deal with it or confront it head on. Avoiding suffering is the basis of mental disorders according to Peck. Since few Humans are ultimately loving to themselves and to others, are honestly and realistically self-reflective, and are pro-active, most don't accept suffering and move on, but avoid it. Therefore, most Humans have a mental disorder to some degree according to Peck, and it is only classified as a disorder when it becomes severe. Most people have re-curring problems and issues: that is their disorder. Well, if I feel the need to have additional psychological counseling, I'll definitely seek it from a licensed therapist, thank you. I believe that we all have problems. That much of life is unfair and that many people are selfish and inadvertantly or advertantly hurt themselves, you or others. Yes, life is unfair. Your nack for pointing-out the obvious is astounding. As much as one might be tempted to use this as a justification to surrender to and learn to coexist with unfairness, I can not be tempted to make such a stretch. Disliking unfairness is the only way that a person can be expected to at least *avoid* it. When women hurl conceptual grenades at males to attack us, all I do is try to catch some of them and hurl them back. To generalize an entire population of females, you must be somewhere between partially or entirely right because they are evidences that you have repeatedly found. However, are their other evidences that you are turning a blind eye to? Are there evidences in your own sex that you are not exploring or have not examined? And are you looking for all facts, or just that facts that confirm your bias? When you ask a question of that type, you're actually trying to answer it *for* me. You're not really asking a question here, you're trying to slip-in your premanufactured conclusions about who I am and how I act. One big issue with your question is: do you really mean my 'bias', or do you mean my 'informed opinion'? Naturally, you suggest that there is no such thing as a truly informed opinion because one's facts are probably incomplete... If that is true, then all claims to informed opinions are actually biases. And if that is true, then all points of view (including your own) are equally invalid. My position is that factual evidence is vital for establishing frames of reference by which we can understand the reality we live in. I refer to principles that are considered correct by society because they are ideas which transcend and cut-across the human experience... principles such as accountability for wrongdoing and desire for gender-equity. In addition, I have made an effort to state things that are borne-out by simply paying attention to the world: if I marry an American woman, the numbers show there is a greater than 45% chance that she will try to divorce me regardless of how committed I am to her. Globally, women have a suicide rate a fraction of the male rate. Globally, women outlive men. American women suffer about 2% of workplace deaths. These are all known *facts* that I have used to support some of my core suggestions. I don't cite them merely because I desire to justify having a mean-spirited 'bias'. Feel free to debate these known facts all you like, but I don't think anybody honestly can. You consider my conclusions to be biases simply because my conclusions are unpleasant for women to think about. I've concluded that American women very often make poor wives (as suggested by their proclivity of destroying their families.) They live comparatively cushy and subsidized lives; they are a privileged class in our society who receive first dibs on many benefits (as suggested by their better health and well-being). They do *not* pull their fair share of the weight in the workplace (almost exclusively men die on the job). These are all data that I use to frame my 'bias'. If there's countervailing evidence that I'm willingly blinding myself to, then *please* feel free to send it to me. For goodness sake, *show* me the evidence I'm blinding myself to instead of hinting that it might exist out there but I'm just not being receptive to it... Show me that women are actually not total freakin' FRAUDS when it comes to their professed desire for 'equality' and I'll be among the first to rejoice. I would LOVE it if women weren't the awful people I think they are... but I can't help shake the feeling that I actually might be right. Believe me, I *wish* I didn't seem so right! It would be *awesome* if it didn't all feel so horribly true! A few more things: The things that you are noticing about woman seem exterior to me. You mean like... how women actually *behave*? They way they behave is an irrelevant externality? The way they interface with society is unimportant? I'd have to argue precisely the opposite... Whenever a person's words disagree with their actions, their words are false and their actions are true. Furthermore, a person can claim to have the best heart in the world, but if they continually use their good heart to justify how they do scummy things, then paying attention to their 'exterior' IS what clues you in to what they're like on the inside. It is how they betray the truth of their inner nature. Looking at the root of their problem or reason for functioning in that way helps to create sympathy and understanding. Maybe that's not what you want to create though. I see. I need more understanding for women? Well, one of the reasons that I have developed my present opinions is precisely *because* I've gained a better understanding of women! Familiarity only made my realizations develop more easily. Perhaps I don't show enough tolerance or sympathy? Well, it is *precisely* tolerance and sympathy that seem to bring-out their bad behavior, in my humble opinion. I credit understanding, tolerating and sympathizing with women as causing me to realize how deranged they actually are. Can I not be justified for thinking that their deranged nature *is*, in fact, their root problem? Human Beings: We are all living this same experience called LIFE. What makes each of us different, is not the clothes we wear or how we look, it is our perceptions, or our filter of our experiences, and also our responses of how we deal with them. Yes, it is important how we deal with life. I advocate the prudent avoidance of self-righteous, predatory females who use doublespeak 'equality' and their lie of victimhood as an excuse for committing fraud and scams on a massive scale. Surely advice to help people deal with women of this type is the kind I *should* be spreading to help others deal with life? I don't believe the issue has to do with men or women or unfairness or fairness. It has to do with perceiving things in the way that makes us truly happy and at peace. Or being proactive to take personal power and change the things within our capability to create internal happiness. Or, maybe I could just point-out bullshit as I see it. The gap between perception and reality is part of LIFE, rehashing how you so condescendingly put it earlier. But it is also part of life to instinctively abhor this gap between perception and practice and try to reduce this gap whenever it exists instead of just pretending it doesn't exist. If you are suggesting that I should find happiness by learning to better-accomodate lunatic hypocrisy, then that's a dangerously flawed solution to advocate. If I live with a gun pointed at my head, you would suggest that I learn to like the gun? This is a quote my girlfriend sent me: "The reason that I don't like some people is not so much because of the personal characteristic of that person, it's more because I let them get to me which makes me dislike myself which makes me dislike them. So by the same principle: if I act like a complete asshole- then it's actually your fault because you're being intolerant of me. Obviously. You know the saying, "the thing you don't like about someone is the thing that you don't like about yourself"? I think that it's not the personally about them that you don't like in yourself it's more of what that person brings out in you that you don't like. Perhaps this would be more meaningful if people around me didn't often say I am so gosh-darned nice and decent. Dear Lord, so far, yours is the most meandering "the real problem lies with you" argument I've ever seen. What you feel about yourself is what is shown to those around you. In order to love everything around you have have to first love everything inside of you." If I am the real problem, then perhaps my perception of fairness should learn to better-accomodate unfairness? That sounds like a counter-productive suggestion. You might as well claim that I can improve my health by becoming more accomodating to the needs of my tumors. Pasted below is an essay that I wrote about perception. Of course since preception is subjective, I am leaning towards Zen philosophies. How interesting that you should be attracted to Zen... which ranks among the weakest intellectual traditions of all Buddhist sects (I'm not making a cultural relativist comparision here, of course). Consider how the Zen master deflects his student's intellectual probing by returning unanswerable questions... until the student becomes so frustrated, he has no choice but to give-up and submit to the master's arbitrary authority. Arguments are won in Zen by shifting frames of reference, not through a fact-based line of thinking. I'm willing to bet that you're not too familiar with the highly politicized use of Zen throughout the history of its development... The Zen tolerance of contradiction and its insistence that perception is illusion are the main reasons WHY it was allowed to flourish in Japan while competing ideas were stamped-out. Ever since the Kamakura period of the 1100s, Japanese political life was increasingly dominated by a hereditary caste of military elite... shoguns, daimyos and their warrior-bureaucrats. After this time, Zen Buddhism was introduced from China (where it was called "Ch'an"... "Zen" being the Japanese pronunciation of "Ch'an"). When Buddhist texts were imported to Japan, they were often censored by official translators to remove anything that might conflict with contemporary political arrangements. Upon entry, Buddhist texts were largely *gutted* of the potent transcendental moral principles that might've held political leadership accountable to generally-accepted standards of behavior. Zen was tolerated by the military governors because it advocated the practice of accommodating hypocrisy, papering-over glaring contradictions and switching your brain-off. (A populace full of docile, switched-off brains is a military dictator's wet dream.) As a result, Zen was given much official support: the Zen monk Suzuki Shosan (1579-1655) spread the notion that to use one's brain was the source of all evil and that commoners should be content to surrender themselves to their masters... Suzuki was given government support, had access to high officials and was able to set-up a network of temples to spread his words. And consider what happened to the competition: the monk Honen (1133-1212) who preached the possibility of individual salvation... his writings and printing blocks were burned and he was exiled to the countryside. Shinran, (1173-1262) founder of the Jodo Shinsu sect, taught that a person's internal moral compass would bring one to salvation... Shinran spent much of life in exile from urban centers because he'd be put to death if he was ever spotted in town. Or Nichiren (1222-1282), founder of the Nichiren sect who called for reform of establishment Buddhism because it had been co-opted by the government... Nichiren, too, spent years hiding in the countryside to dodge his death sentence. Criticizing establishment Buddhism was political dynamite... it was far easier for religious scholars to stop questioning the world they lived in. By tending towards Zen thinking, you are actually using a product of censorship... an officially approved method of philosophical discourse that Japanese military warlords had cynically promoted in hopes that their subjects would become acquiescent, sheeplike and easily led. (Laff!) Oh, but wait! All of these facts about the history of Zen merely cause me to bias my perceptions and muddle my thinking! A thousand pardons... Thank you so much for writing, and I wish you the best in attaining perfect obliviousness. -- NG
PianoMan, (a guy), writes me an email that was so breathtaking in scope and depth, it knocked me off my seat... Hi- I've had enough and today was the last straw. Here a few examples of why many women suck! I'm a 32 year old unmarried male. I have been engaged twice and caught both of my fiancés cheating on me. I was completely faithful during my engagements. These girls apologized and I caught them cheating again! I finally gave them the boot and went without sex for at about 6 months after breaking up with them. Many Women see me as attractive only when I'm with a hot women regardless of her character. Can anyone say 'conniving'? I have a sister who is extremely pretty and she made more money at her part-time job at age 14 then I make today. She is only too happy to rub her various houses in my face when we talk. She is married to a scumbag husband who lies to her and sleeps with other women. I know that pretty girls look at my sister and they get on a mission to sleep with her husband. They say they must be prettier then my sister is because her husband bangs them and not just his wife. My sister's husband is more then willing to sleep with these tarts because he has no honor. No one can say this to my sister without her hanging up the phone or walking away. She stays with her husband because she can't admit she has made a mistake and she would look bad amongst her female friends. If it was not for my sister her husband would be in prison getting his ass kicked for all the lying and cheating he does. He has no talent other than going to school for the last 6 years on my sister's dime. He is a nurse and comes home and calls his patients stupid for getting hurt. He openly says he is a nurse for the money. My sister says he is a good man because he now has a education and is earning money. Her husband will never get caught cause his wife will never check-up on him. One time when I drove with my sister's husband, he chased down a girl after she cut him off in traffic. He verbally threatened this young girl and was driving down the wrong side of the road when chasing her. I told my sister about it and she said her husband works hard at school and was letting off steam. She said he did not do that with her and that he would not apologize. Can anyone say 'Co-dependant'? My sister is a pharmaceutical sales rep. She has a bachelors in psychology and master's degree in sociology but refuses to admit that her husband is a dishonest and cheating jerk. My sister sold weight loss drugs called Phen-Phen and Redux. Both of those drugs were taken of the shelf after various lawsuits and people dying. Other people who briefly took those drugs have reported heart damage and are also suing the drug makers. My sister made hundreds of thousands of dollars selling Phen Phen and Redux and tows the company line saying these patients must be making-up their ailments. (That- that BITCH! Just when you think they can't possibly go any lower, some chick manages to dig her way down through the basement floor! -- NG) She has gotten rich of selling drugs and has the admiration of many women. When my sister walks in a room, women trip over themselves to be near her. Other women don't see a problem with her selling dangerous medication because she was able to buy a nice house with the proceeds. She is more than willing to brag about her spoils to the gaggles of eager women who wish they could earn the money she has. Can anyone say 'shallow'? The last corporation I worked at was operated by a female CEO. This CEO walked away with $20 million dollars in cash before her company failed. While working there, I witnessed mass reverse discrimination and male bashing. I had the highest quality numbers in the company and a 19 year old lesbian was gleefully made my supervisor by a female VP. I was never able to get promoted working at that company. The CEO is now being sued by more than a dozen civil law firms for stock fraud. Before the company failed there were 80 employees who were going to file discrimination lawsuits. The plaintiffs were mostly straight females with kids and older, straight, and white males. The company constantly asked our entire team to lie about production numbers to bolster our numbers given to investors. If employees lied and were gay or lesbian they were promoted by supervisors and managers. If a person talked about family or business ethics they were harassed by supervisors and managers and eventually terminated. The men are guilty too because they would do the dirty work of the women in hopes of getting sex. The women were happy to give it to them. Can anyone say 'hate-crimes'? I was working security at a luxury high rise. Two women walked in and asked if they could rent a movie on a Sunday. I said the movie rental booth inside the complex was run by the leasing agents and no agent worked on Sunday so the videos were locked-up. The two women scowled at me and walked away in disgust. 15 minutes later they asked a female receptionist if they could rent a movie. The receptionist said "no" because there was no one who had the keys to the movie rental locker on Sunday. The two women smiled and thanked the receptionist profusely for giving them that information. It would appear that these two women had made a friend for life as I listened to these women heap praise on each other. They totally ignored and rebuked me for their entire stay. They made sure to be extra friendly to the receptionist. Can anyone say 'manipulative'? I went to a bar the other day and two computer programmers were chatting with each other. After about two beers each, they went to the restroom. Two females then sat in the chairs the men were sitting in at the bar. The men came back and asked for their chairs back. The women refused. One woman kept saying she was cute and adorable and did not need to give up her seat. In reality, the girls who were at the bar were fat and had rotten personalities. The men went and got new chairs and moved from where they were sitting originally. Can anyone say 'ugly'? When I watch television men are being ripped on constantly by female hosts. One female host was commenting on the Ozzy Osborne show on MTV. She joked with the audience that OZZY was the typical hapless, incompetent male. The mostly female audience burst out in applause after her callous statement. Ozzy is smart enough to be able to play music and win the respect of millions of paying fans and OZZY definitely does not get by on his looks. I have never in my life heard Ozzy put women down. He takes psychological medication because the females around him have convinced him that he is a psychological mess. Ozzy is now impotent from those prescribed drugs. I suppose he is the perfect male for women. He is rich, will take abuse from females, and can't get it up. He will buy things for women while they tease him in public. Now I see why he is popular with many ladies. Can anyone say 'pathetic'? Today I walked into work in a good mood. That mood was quickly changed by my two females workers that sit next to me. One female constantly comes in at least 15-30 minutes late to work. She takes 2 hour lunches at least 3 times a week. Some days she comes in late and then takes a break! She asks other people to work her shifts and when they refuse she throws a temper tantrum. Her voice makes most people cringe because it is so abrasive. When I was in training one man came in late twice. He was terminated one week later by his female supervisor. The other female I sit next does not talk until she she wants to mooch food from one of the teammates. She is also chubby but a man dare not say that or he will be persecuted. I came to work and the cleaning lady (who owns her own cleaning business and makes $100,000+ a year) started talking about her Arizona vacation she had just been on. We asked if her husband went with her. She said no because he could not get off of work. He makes $30 a hour and he is part of the Teamster union. His union is thinking about striking. I told the cleaning lady that it might benefit her husband not to strike and get his pension in 4 years. My two female co-workers said I did not know anything about the Teamsters Union and that her husband had to strike if the Teamster's did. I said he did not "have to strike" but if he crossed the Teamster picket-line he would lose his friends and may face some physical danger. The two girls again said I did not know what I was talking about. They said her husband could not strike because the Teamsters were influenced by the mob and he would get rubbed-out if he crossed the line! That was basically what I said except that it's his choice to side with management or the union. It |