Why I've Given-up the Pursuit of American Women

I want out of this country.

I am just plain, almost fed-up with women in America. I have this friend from Poland... he told me "You know, I've seen Ally McBeal. We have it on tv over in Poland... and a lot of guys there think that if you go-up and start talking to an American woman, she'll sue you."   It was just HI-fucking-larious to hear him say this. 

Anyways... I try to be a man of the world. I LOVE living in other cultures. I've been to Taiwan 5 times, for instance. I've been to China, India, Russia, and some of the former Soviet central Asian republics too. I love traveling, and Taiwan is just a wonderful country in so many ways. I think it's definitely one of the most interesting, colorful and culturally-rich countries on the planet. One reason I like going there- the women there are much more interested in being around me. (I'm not after SEX, btw. I want to feel like I'm close to someone. You know, I'd like to have a woman who I can emotionally-connect with.) I guess I'm interesting to Taiwanese women because I'm an exotic foreigner- Oh, American women just go WET over Latin guys, don't they? It's the same principle.

Oh sure, a cynic might say "they're just interested in you for your money/possibility of citizenship." And I disagree- the women I've dated in Taiwan had careers and family there that they didn't want to leave behind. They did not show ANY interest in moving to the U.S., in fact, some of them asked me to move there so I could be with them, not vice versa. I think the whole 'she just wants a green card' argument is total stereotypical bullshit, and it's what most American women automatically say when I talk glowingly about my past girlfriends in Taiwan. American women don't like being unfavorably compared, you see... "WHAT?! You say I'm not Queen of the Fucking Earth?!?! How dare you!"

"You value other women more highly than me!?! Out of my sight!!"

These women were just lovely, intelligent and wonderful- in the way that many women are. (And I'm not talking about the submissive little Asian doll stereotype, either- I know many Taiwanese women who'd kick your ass to hell and back if you ever called them 'submissive'. I wouldn't date a submissive woman, it's just not attractive to me.) And, you know, I try to be a NiceGuy. I like to treat women as equal partners. Respectful, friendly, courteous, kind- the whole nine yards. (You know- the behavior that gets you shat-on and rejected by American women.)

But- these gals in Taiwan were just SO nice to me and they could not BELIEVE me when I say that women in the U.S. won't date me. I treated them with respect, I paid attention to them when they spoke, I gave good hugs... and they just spoiled me with kindness in return. There's a saying in Taiwan: "Heavy boy, light girl"... essentially, it means that a boy is worth more. That kind of thinking pisses me off- Taiwanese women deserve to be treated far better and I try my best to treat them as well as they deserve.

One idea that might explain why I get-along with the women over there: the Chinese word for 'feminism' is nan-nü pingdengzhuyi... which literally means 'male-female equalism'. What a nice concept!

I've traveled a lot, I've seen how women are treated in a lot of countries and it sickens me. Women in too many traditional societies aren't even treated as scarcely human. By comparison, women in the U.S. are so fucking spoiled. They really are. They've had it so good for so long that they've lost all sense of reality or proportion. Look at the statistics: they are among the most privileged 5% of all women on the planet, and yet it's NOT ENOUGH. They are among the healthiest, wealthiest, best-educated and politically-empowered women on the planet... and it's STILL NOT ENOUGH. (Don't let me even START about attractive American women- they are hyper-spoiled because they can walk-over just about every man they meet, but more about that later.)

Oh, you still think women in America have it bad? Don't make me laugh. You can't prove to me that American women aren't pampered by comparison when you look around the planet. At least U.S. gals aren't sold-into prostitution at the age of 12 because the parents need money to feed the sons. At least American girls aren't excluded from school or drowned at birth because they're a girl so the parents can concentrate their scarce resources on the boys. At least they're not forced into marriage with some guy she's never met, and then have battery-acid thrown in her face because her parents' dowry wasn't big enough. At least she's not forced to smother herself under a full-body burqa veil when it's 120 degrees outside. American women don't have their genitals MUTILATED to ensure that they can't enjoy sex. (I'm not talking about any specific country in particular, mind you, but this kind of shit happens in some countries and it just horrifies me. Being a NiceGuy, I want to... you know, see women treated decently.)  American women should pause for a minute and reflect on just HOW good their lives are by comparison. American 'ladies', think about this the next time you complain about how BAD you have it.

There's nothing I want more than to go back to Taiwan again, and just find a wonderful, loving lady and just treat her with the kindness, respect and love that she deserves. When I treat an American 'lady' with respect... well, let's just say I don't get many dates.

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"Heaven is an American salary, a Chinese cook, an English house, and a Japanese wife. Hell is defined as having a Chinese salary, an English cook, a Japanese apartment, and an American wife." -- James H. Kabbler III.

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