I Appreciate the Effort But Please NO MORE Advice on how to get American Chicks. Pretty Please?

Please, please PLEASE no more advice on how to get American chicks. Okay? I've completely sworn 'em off. Sacred Vow, remember? If you have romantic tips or advice which is applicable for Japan, I'm certainly all ears. That's the only situation I could use dating advice for. Remember, I'm on a mission: conducting the Grand Experiment requires that I be myself and not put-on an act. This whole shebang requires that I not change my techniques. Maybe I'm ridiculous, but I want a woman to like me for the pathetic creature I am.

Nonetheless, I still got some emails advocating a number of sites that give pick-up advice. I've checked them out, and I think they have merit. These letters might be good notices for some of my readers. I agree with them, learning to out-play women's games might be your only way to survive.

Anyway, I don't think their advice would help me in the Grand Experiment... but I'm redirecting these letters to you, the readers. These weren't just messages for me... they were something for EVERY reader of mine.

(Hint for future contributors- don't assume that dissolving your message in a broth of intimidation will make me take you more seriously.)

Pete sends me his point of view:

I just read over your web page and I have to say that you are the biggest AFC ever conceived. (I'm led to believe that 'AFC' is code for 'Average Frustrated Chump', but he never defined it for me straight-off the bat. Based on his context, I'm pretty sure it doesn't mean 'Astute, Fine Chap'. -- NG) This shit is downright pathetic. Look at this quote:

"I want to say in my defense: in case you don't believe me, I'm actually a NiceGuy. Both my male and female friends tell me that all the time. It's kind of hard for me to prove that to you, though."

Hahahaha!!!! You're actually trying to PROVE how much of an AFC you are!!!! Don't worry, I'm sure the women believe it ALL TOO WELL. You've got it bad, my friend. Your entire map of reality is skewed. You will have to let go of your precious illusions...and I know its hard because you have so much emotional energy invested in them.

I have an easy analogy for you: Cats. This will show how ridiculous your writings are.

Cats behave a certain way...it's their nature. They dig in the litter box. They enjoy catnip. Pick them up, and they want down. Put them down, and they want up. They whine for wet food. When they get it, they turn up their nose. All the new kittens will grow up and behave this way. All their progeny in future generations will behave this way. It's their nature. (I tend to believe that women are more than simply the aggregate result of impersonal, blameless forces like their biological programming. -- NG)

With me so far? Here's the key: Once you accept that this is true, you have no place to complain. You have no place to say, "Waaah, cats are fickle. Waaah, cats don't know what they want. Waaah, cats piss in the sandbox." You might as well be complaining about gravity!!!!! (Here's an irony: I'm allergic to cats and I don't really want them in my house. Furthermore humans, unlike the forces of gravity and magnetism, are actually sentient individuals. -- NG)

Your web page is the same way...internally inconsistent! On one hand, you say that women ARE a certain way...And then you go on to complain about it! (Well, I actually don't care for cats. Why should I pretend I want to manage their bullshit? -- NG) On one hand, you say women aren't attracted to nice guys...but then you go out of your way to try to prove how nice you are!

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Here's another mistake you make. You make this false assumption: Women Are Attracted To Assholes. (Thugs, Jerks, whatever.) And if you aren't an asshole, women won't be attracted to you. WRONG.

Here's the truth: Women Are Not Attracted To AFC's.

Let me repeat that so it sinks in. It's not that women are only attracted to assholes. RATHER, Women are only NOT attracted to AFC's.

It's a critical distinction. (I suppose... -- NG)

You could be in the "All Other Guys" group, and NOT be an asshole....and women will still be all over you BECAUSE YOU ARE NOT AN AFC.

In other words, you don't wanna be an asshole...but it's STILL better than being an AFC! Being an AFC is the ABSOLUTE WORST.

The number one mistake of the AFC is that he supplicates to women. YOU ARE A SUPPLICANT. Here is how the thought process works:

1) Hmm I want to fuck that chick.
2) Assumption: She only fucks guys that she LIKES.
3) Assumption: I need to get her to LIKE me.
4) Assumption: If I show her how NICE I am, she will LIKE ME.
5) Assumption: If I DO WHAT SHE SAYS, and BUY HER STUFF, she will think I'm NICE.
6) Assumption: If I supplicate to her, I will get laid!!!!!!!

WRONG WRONG WRONG WRONG WRONG

Do you want to fuck chicks that are NICE? Or do you want to fuck chicks that you want to fuck? BE HONEST. (To be very honest: I also find things attractive that are above mere fucking. I like a variety of features in a woman. Physical attraction, intelligence, humor, education, career. Yes, believe it or not, I actually do find non-physical things attractive and I actually do think that a relationship should be based on more than sex. And I think that ideally, sex should be a healthy part of an emotionally-charged relationship and not the main impetus. -- NG)

Similarly, whether a chick fucks a guy has NOTHING TO DO with how nice he is!!! It has to do with how sexually attracted she feels, PERIOD. And she has no choice in the matter!! It's sexual attraction. It's in her nature. It's like a cat digging in the litter. You can call 1-800-WAAAAH or write your frustrated rants on your web page all you want, it doesn't change nature! (Or just realize that cats aren't worth the upkeep, and start looking for a parakeet... -- NG)

Let me give you a tiny glimmer of the truth in order to make my point. This is only as an example eye-opener. Women aren't able to feel sexually attracted to a man unless they feel secure around him. If you are nice to her all the time, it leads her to believe that either you are disingenuous, thus not to be trusted, or that you are harmless. Either way, she is unable to feel SECURE around you, then thus she cannot feel ATTRACTED to you.

But let's say that you chew her out for doing something disrespectful. (And you do the chewing in such a way that you remain calm and in control of yourself and the situation.) Now: would a guy ever chew her out in order to get into her panties? Of course not...so the communication must be genuine! When she perceives a genuine communication, it builds trust, thus allowing her to feel secure in your presence...thus opening her up to a lot more intense states.

I've only given you a part of the picture here, to make a point: That just "being nice" may SEEM right to you, but to a chick it causes her to perceive that you are someone trying to take advantage of her. (And she's probably right...most "nice guys" really are just putting on an act because they THINK it will get them some pussy.) (According to cynics, at least. Or maybe AFCs just believe in following certain benevolent principles? The problem is that AFCs think a woman finds benevolence to be an attractive feature. -- NG)

You might THINK, "she SHOULD be attracted to me because I am nice"....but that doesn't make it so. All you've really done is demonstrate that she cannot rely on you in this world because you are either harmless or disingenuous. You aren't "being real" with her. This is just to give you an example that, although your ideas might "seem right" to you, it's possible for them to be dead wrong and for a GOOD REASON.

Behold, I tell you a secret: It's possible to learn a simple skillset and set of understandings that will enable you to have ALL the success you want with women, WITHOUT being an asshole. It's true. But in order for you to do that, you will have to take some personal responsibility for the reactions that you get from women.

Look at what you say about your cousin: "He doesn't respect women. He sees them as toys for his own gratification. He has no education, a crappy job, and I can go on and on. Basically put, I wish he'd be nicer to women."

This, for you, is a logical disconnect. How can it be that these things are true and yet he gets women at the same time? Is it BECAUSE he's an asshole? (NO...it's because he's NOT an AFC supplicant.)

Ok so these are your reasons why he shouldn't be having success with women:

1) He doesn't respect women.
2) He has no education.
3) He doesn't have a good job.
4) He's not as nice to women as I THINK HE SHOULD BE. (Actually, it's not just me who thinks this. He's not as nice to women as most of his relatives think he should be. -- NG)

And here is how you judge whether someone SHOULD be successful with women:

1) He should respect them.
2) He should have a good education.
3) He should have a good job.
4) He should be really nice to women.

HMMMMMM THAT DESCRIBES YOU!!!! And your success is for SHIT! Maybe having a good job is NOT what attracts women. Maybe being "nice" is NOT what attracts women! Maybe your ideas about how things SHOULD BE are not how things ACTUALLY ARE? (Yes, I think that women SHOULD BE non-morons. Sadly, that's not reality. -- NG)

Look dude, you are still relatively young. You can still have an amazing romantic and sexual life. You still have a chance not to throw it all away...wake up one day with your YOUTH GONE and ask yourself:

Why was it SO IMPORTANT for me to respect women, when I knew all along that they didn't respect me?
Why did I try to NICE my way into her bed when I knew that she found it unattractive?
Why did I complain about nature itself instead of recognizing the truth and benefiting from it? (Oooh, building a sense of urgency here... -- NG)

You need to learn Neuro-Linguistics. You need to learn Speed Seduction. You need to learn the Mystery Method. You need to turn your bullshit illusions upside down and accept the possibility that your limited knowledge about women is flawed and doesn't accurately reflect reality.

www.fastseduction.com
www.speed-seduction.com

Learn the truth and be happy.

(In short: by putting a woman before yourself, you are a wimp. By comparison, the sender must obviously be a big, brave man whom I should strive to emulate at all costs to myself and the people around me. Yes, reduce everything to a simple matter of my horniness coupled with my lack of backbone... for I am apparently incapable of doing anything in an honest or noble fashion at all. My response follows... -- NG)

My (paraphrased) reply:

From the get-go, you made it a little hard for me to take you seriously, simply because your overall tone was that of a carnival barker. If you really wanted to prevent me from scoffing, I probably would've appreciated a little less "MAN YOU'RE FUCKED" and a little more "here's an alternate approach". It would've been easier for me to lend credibility to what you say. But now I actually found time to read it more closely. I think it's a very respectable statement that you sent me… but only if I wanted American women. I cant FORCE myself to like shitty people.

I'm very pleased that you do not contradict my core statement: that women are total morons as part of their 'nature'. Now, you castigate me mainly for daring to SAY anything about what insanity it is, though. You suggest that I simply shrug and accept it as a universal given because it's useless to talk about it. I say: female nature is not something that I should surrender to just because it exists. That being feminine is somehow a good-enough excuse for expelling bullshit into the world. My position is that it is not merely impersonal forces like 'nature', but cultural influences and individual decision-making plays a key role too.

You say that I might as well complain about 'gravity', as if people are the same thing as an immutable natural constant. The bombing of North Vietnam used the force of gravity, but no one would ever dare argue that it was purely a result of 'nature' and that there was a certain inevitability to it. No, I'm not complaining about nature or gravity, I'm complaining about culturally-sanctioned INSANITY.
I believe that people are not entirely immutable, that the human experience is about rising-ABOVE our natural programming and that cultural factors play an overriding role in how people behave and how people interact within relationships (yes, even when it comes to 'fucking'). So, I've changed my cultural surroundings. (And believe it or not, some cool women in Taiwan actually found me fuckable- AFC or not.)

Yes, you suggest I learn how to win at an insane game. But I advocate breaking-out of the asylum altogether. It's a bit more radical, but I think it's a good tactic for the right type of person. I'm not the type of person to simply shrug and say "they are insane… oh well, guess I'll just grin and bear it." Insanity is not good enough for me… I'm looking for a reduction of insanity.

You used the example of cats: I don't really care for the upkeep of cats, and I don't want them in my house. I can accept that their nature exists, but I don't *have* to have a cat if I don't want one. Do I have to endure a cat if I don't like them?

The biggest mistaken assumption that you've made about me… That I actually LIKE American women. The answer is no, I don't like them. I started not liking them years ago, and only recently has this dislike reached a critical mass to make me want to leave. Today, I write-about WHY I left. I think they have a large portfolio of unattractive things about them which stem from their 'nature', and their diseased 'nature' makes them entirely unattractive to me. So I don't like them. Up until a year ago, I'd been hoping that they weren't like that… but they are. I'd rather not pursue them.
So, no I don't want one. I don't expect to play any tricks to get them. Why would I want advice on how to catch a mouth-foaming wolverine? *Shrug* Are they really so wonderful? Their beauty may be a mile wide, but it's a proton deep. And they can royally fuck-up your life in myriad ways to boot.

As you said: they don't like me. And I don't like them. It's a mutual thing. I prefer women who are actually worth going-after. If you think this is just sour grapes, I actually HAVE had relationships with American chicks. I've given them multiple chances, and they proved to me that their rot goes from the head-on down. Do you insist that I SHOULD want one? Don't I know what I like?

To tell you the truth, I really consider American women to be on the same level as toxic waste. I really do. The thought of being in bed with one makes me gag. Therefore, I don't think 'fast seduction' would be at all appropriate for me.

I think your advice would be simply awesome… if only I found that kind of woman worthwhile. Maybe some of my readers might find it appropriate for them, however. -- NG

And for good measure, I got two other emails the same week.

Sinclair writes:

Nice Guy...

If you are REALLY sick of women treating you that way, (incl, American women), check out the following site. The stuff really works. I was like you...a "nice guy." Always being trashed by women. Now, my "life" with women has totally and completely changed for the better by implementing the tips, tactics, and suggestions. The stuff there is completely FREE. Try it!!!

http://www.fastseduction.com/

Good Luck!!

MRV writes:

instead of wallowing in your sorrows and complaining about women sucking it would probably be much more beneficial to use your time to actually do something about it. if you impose all these beliefs on yourself that women just don't like nice guys and they just don't like you, you are really hurting yourself. I
know ppl have sent you links to fastseduction.com. use em. I used to be like you (though not quite as bitter) and (thanks to the site) I've undergone a complete transformation, and I'm still "nice". good luck

So...

I have a feeling that a link to my page got posted on a message-board on their site, which brought-over the three of them. That is, of course, just fine.

Here's the way I saw the situation for myself in the U.S.: imagine you work in an office building and awful-smelling yellow fumes are coming-out the air-ducts all day long. The fumes make you cough and bring tears to your eyes. You've talked with other people in the office about looking-in to the source of the fumes and possibly fixing the air system... but they look at you as if there's something wrong with the idea that you'd dare complain, and there's no way of dealing with the source of the problem anyway because it's impossible to fix (and it is probably true). Furthermore, they tell you that since many of your co-workers seem to have gotten-used to the smell, it can't be all that bad. They suggest that you toughen-up, stop whining and get back to your desk.
So, there are only two real options left-open in that case. One: wear a clothespin on your nose the whole time. Two: move to a different job in a better building. I don't know about you, but I'd prefer not to breathe polluted air through my mouth.

That is the case with dating in North America: I'm not going to wear a clothespin to stop me from smelling the bullshit. I'm not looking for better ways to plow bullshit out of my path. I'm actually looking for a significant reduction of bullshit while shamelessly preserving the pathetic creature that I am. I might be expecting too much, but something tells me I'm not being at all unrealistic in my expectations.

But maybe I would now qualify as an RAFC? (Recovering Average Frustrated Chump?) Since moving to Planet Japan, I haven't felt particularly frustrated. And as far as American women are concerned, no more nice guy for them in any case. They neither want nor deserve someone who actively wants to benefit them. I'm NO LONGER an AFC for American chicks... mind you, not because I hope they'll find it a bigger turn-on, but because I think they deserve the most complete and abject regimen of harshness and disrespect that I could dish-out in ten lifetimes.

Anyway...

Now first of all, I respect these guys very much. They don't disagree with me on the idea that women are f'd-up in the head, they just think it's a waste of time in writing about it. That every minute I spend writing, I could probably spend that minute getting laid instead. As if that was the only thing I cared about. Writing about female bullshit is a waste of time because 'It's a woman's nature', so all subsequent questioning should terminate... as if having a vagina is a good-enough excuse for the manufacture of bullshit. That women might suck... but just shut-up and deal with it because it probably can't be helped.

They dismiss much of what I say as the whinings of a wimp. Perhaps that is a fair accusation to make. But let me tell you this much: the lamentation of an AFC is not always just- but if you dismiss it reflexively, then you do not know what justice is.

In his writings above, Pete states that women behave irrationally. He doesn't deny that fact or lie about it, but he does something different: he mentions it briefly, downplays its importance and moves-on to things more important to him (namely: reminding me I'm pathetic while touting a preferred approach to wench-bedding).

Basically, he hints that yes, women are pretty nuts, but it is not that important. It should weigh very little on how we interact with the world. In fact, talking about it is ridiculous, because you might as well be complaining about something impersonal, like gravity. There are occasions when clever-seeming analogies obscure more information than they reveal- human behavior is not the same thing as an immutable natural law. Far from it, in fact- many humans are not predictable. His analogy serves (unwittingly perhaps) to justify unjustifiable female behavior. But it is the job of thinking people to not pretend that lunacy is a legitimate way of behaving.

Pete uses another oversimplified analogy: the idea of cats. Likening women to unthinking animals (heh, and this example is one which I can't strongly disagree with). Yes, it is in the nature of cats to frustrate their owners, and you can't question it. So here's my question to follow the lead set by his example: why the hell should you get a cat in the first place, then?

To play with his example further... I write about why I dislike cats and why I've gotten them out of my life. Why cats can ruin your curtains with their claws and make your house smell like urine. How cats shed hair all-over your scrambled-eggs when you've got your back turned and how they leave a trail of allergy-aggravating dander wherever they go. How they unceasingly screech at 3 AM if their toy doesn't have enough catnip in it. So, I think that cats suck. Perhaps this critique will allow someone out there to make a better-informed decision before they get a cat?

And 'sides, I've been told that I'm somewhat entertaining to boot. If I wasn't, you wouldn't be reading this.

These contributors advocate learning to play female head games and immunizing yourself to female bullshit... those are very worthy endeavors regardless of what I think. Yes by all means, learn to outplay women at their own games. Inoculate yourself against female bullshit. I invite ALL my male readers to look at these sites and give serious evaluation to them. They might help you survive. Go and learn the Black Arts of Human Appeal. Go learn the trickery that makes women horny. Go have sex with many of 'em, and then make sure they all sob good and hard after you unceremoniously break their hearts. I'd sure love to see more American chicks getting nastily screwed-over, wouldn't you?

But, why have I not decided to take their advice? Because: I've decided on blazing my own trail. Their solution calls for outplaying American female insanity- but I am for getting-out of the asylum altogether. Especially since I don't like the straitjacketed, female drool-monkeys who live there.

If You Can't Stand the Shit, Then Get-Out of the Septic Tank

Either tactic might work, it's really up to you which one you choose. In fact, for many people, the first option might be the best one. Not everyone is prepared to uproot their life and move continents, that takes an enormous commitment and a massive restructuring of your existence. That's why I heartily endorse the first option as a low-cost alternative, but I think you have to decide for yourself whether or not it's appropriate for you. The advice is about changing some of your behavior to make you appear more interesting and avoid getting strung-along into 'just friends' territory. The advice might be just perfect for you, especially if you don't see a problem with North American chicks.

I doubt I could ever live with an American woman's psychosis while leaving my own sanity intact, it's hard for me to be genuinely attracted to women who I think are nutballs and bigoted man-haters. Furthermore, none of these guys say anything about the negative aspects of being with a woman... the false rape accusations, misandry, the damage of divorce settlements and drawn-out child-custody battles... sadly, those things are actually not 'illusions'. These are actual dangers which accompany a man's life in North America. I intend to avoid being on the receiving end of that stuff instead of pretending that they don't exist.

Now, I don't mean to devalue these guy's contributions. They wrote good emails. They've got what they think are good methods, and perhaps those methods are good for you. By all means, reader, I enthusiastically ask you to check-out the sites. If it helps you at all, then so much the better for you. If it doesn't help you, then you're none the worse-off.

See: www.fastseduction.com and www.speed-seduction.com.

Hey, some of the pickup lines and jokes are amusing. Some of the seduction tips might be worth using. Yeah, go on over and spend a few hours reading their site. You might find something you like. If you think the content is right for you, then by all means use it.

Why was I an AFC?

One definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. So why was I doing something fruitless over and over if I suspected treating women generously didn't work? Well, I think I figured-out what was going wrong much of the time: not that I was committing the unforgivable sin of being a belly-crawling, craven AFC... but that I was going-after American chicks. I feel that is a critical distinction.

So maybe I was an AFC? Why did I do this? Was I just a fool? Well... yeah. I probably was.

I'll be very honest as to my motivations for why I did that even though it didn't seem to work: I like being generous to women. I get personal satisfaction from making women happy. I like giving women massages and seeing them smile and making them feel special. I like making them laugh and giving them comfort and making them feel cared-for. I actually care about my woman's emotions. Is it impossible that even a tiny minority of AFCs aren't necessarily trying to supplicate their way into bed and might actually like making women feel special? Is it impossible that if a guy brings flowers on a date, that he might actually like seeing a smile on the woman's face? Is it that so far-fetched? Well, apparently, that idea is pretty darned far-fetched...

Sure, maybe my generosity makes me look like a floormat- the cynic's view is that everything I do can only be seen as trying to curry favor in an conniving fashion because I 'think it will get me laid' or something base like that. As if I am unaware of my own motivations.

So maybe being generous to women makes me an AFC/supplicant? Maybe it makes me a toady or a sycophant or a man who can't stand-up for himself? Maybe it makes me a spineless, conniving weasel who thinks he has to bribe his way into a woman's bed? Maybe I'm a pathetic, pathetic, sniveling, little kowtowing belly-crawler of a pantywaist? Fine, call me whatever derogatory names you please. But at the same time, you are denying the simple idea that a human being (even one as lowly and worm-like as an AFC) might be capable of following certain principles simply because he thinks they are good principles and not necessarily because they are a sure-fire route to getting laid.

Just because the preceding guys who wrote me only seem to care about getting into a woman's panties, they assume that I am trying to do the same thing. Albeit through a more conniving method: bribing my way into a woman's panties by being a supplicant. And just because women assume that men only care about getting into their panties, they assume that I am trying to do just that: get into their panties by being a supplicant. So there. I guess that puts me in my place, dunnit? That is all my life is about, no matter what I might say to the contrary.

As much as I like the idea of getting into a woman's panties, I'm not only after sex. That statement might shock you, or it might get dismissed by some of you as bullshit but... I don't consider sex to be the end-all/be-all of existence. If I was that type of guy, I probably would've reflexively jumped-on Fumiyo's bones when she came-on to me, wouldn't I? I'm after a woman who I can have an appropriate relationship with, a woman with the right mixture of features. Unless sexual pleasure accompanies the right interpersonal connections, then the pursuit of sex as an end in itself becomes an incredibly depressing endeavor indeed. Sex in of itself would be a spasmodic, fleeting bit of pleasure that yearns for something more substantial to back it up with. Or that's how it is for me, at least in most of my past experiences. Sorry, I guess my schlong just doesn't command everything I say and do.

AFC or not: I actually like doing good things for women. Unfortunately, this made me sexually unattractive to American chicks. But, and this is my point: some really wonderful and sexy women in Taiwan reacted very warmly to me even though I didn't put-on any habits different from the ones I put-on in America. More recently in Japan, I've been enjoying a level of female attention which is just about perfect for my taste- Haruna apparently finds me attractive, even though I am only being my pathetic, sniveling self. Saya jumped into bed with my whiny, loser AFC ass after the second date. Fumiyo desires me and spoils me with nights on the town despite my unsexy lack of backbone. Are these women appalling freaks to be so interested in an insect like me? What accounts for this obvious discrepancy? I haven't changed my appearance or my behavior one iota. In fact, I spend a lot of time sweating like a hog in the sweltering heat, so I'm probably quite a bit less alluring then I was in the U.S. So... maybe being an AFC only works in certain countries? I dunno, all I know is that the mating behavior of the North American female isn't universal, thank God.

When I was 18, I suspected that North American women didn't like 'nice guys/AFCs', but I still wanted to be generous to women and do things to make them happy. Today, I know that being generous to North American women is fruitless. So once again: WHY was I doing something fruitless over and over if I suspected it didn't work? Because: I was possessed of the foolhardy optimistic hope that there might be SOME woman out there who was special enough to actually LIKE being treated as if she mattered!

I believed that there might be an American woman out there who wasn't f'd-up in the head. And I was dead wrong.

"I (SOB) Want Someone Who Will Be Good To Me..." = Pants on Fire.

In fact, some American chicks are so f'd-up in the head, they will condemn a man as some kind of conniving toady if he wants to do generous things for her. That's right, they will interpret a gesture of kindness as some form of bribe or ingratiating supplication or as anything but what it really is. They will anticipate some sort of ulterior motive or stereotype-based character failing in you before they even know who the hell you are. Trying to be generous to women is something that gets you shat-upon in the dating game. And the reason why so many nice-guy/AFCs spend their efforts trying to do this is not because they are just naturally submissive, spineless and pathetic wimps, but it is because most of them actually listen to women who spend so much time whining about how they want someone who will treat them the way a AFCs tries to! AFCs actually trust what women say they want!

An AFC actually listens when a woman talks about her relationship needs. But AFCs don't realize that women don't want solutions to their relationship problems- they just like to complain non-stop about their relationship problems! So, because he actually believes the things a woman says, an AFC can be fairly accused of being an imbecile.

Whenever she says she wants someone who will treat her well-- Lies! ALL LIES! LIAR! LIAR! LIAR!

Furthermore, what the heck kind of prize are these chicks down the road? They are women who end-up purging half their husbands and kicking them to the proverbial curbs. The contract of marriage with an American woman is worthless, because she has both an easy method and a financial incentive to break the contract if she desires. No matter what I might conceivably do to attract a North American woman, the record shows she'll probably only cherish my money and property yet more. Too many North American women seem to think that a divorce is better than a marriage, since it involves getting a slice of ex-hubby's earnings and no icky reciprocal responsibilities to speak of. Furthermore, they grow-up correctly believing that they can make false accusations against men and get sympathy and/or compensation for doing so. They grow-up believing that men should be taken-advantage of. All throughout life, they are rewarded for acting f'd-up in the head.

And if this next bit doesn't put things in proper perspective, nothing will: if you are living in the English-speaking world, then you are surrounded by women who will chuckle with their friends at the thought of cutting-off someone's penis.

That is the kind of blood-drinking monster you're up-against. A rabbit in pain will elicit more sympathy from a woman than will you if your penis ever gets snipped-off. A North American woman will simply see it as just desserts or poetic justice or as a valuable lesson that you needed to learn. And she'll chuckle to her friends about how funny your mutilation is. Isn't it funny, you being assaulted with a knife?

Conclusion: No matter what you do, they think you belong to the worthless-as-shit gender. And an AFC is simply lower than shit, because he actually swallows a woman's hogwash when she waxes poetic about what kind of man she supposedly 'wants'.

Don't Bother, They are F'd-Up in the Head

Pete is incontrovertibly on-target about on one thing in particular: women do NOT like AFCs. They do NOT. Never have, never will... at least not until after they've been battered to hell and back, of course. But sure, women don't only go for assholes... they also like money, too.

But whatever the hell it is that women might like on that particular day (who knows?) they sure as hell don't go for AFCs, do they? Nope, AFCs just aren't sexy. An AFC isn't 'kind-hearted' or 'affectionate' or 'generous' mind you, he is but a groveling, distasteful, supplicating, centipede-like little bootlicker who makes a woman's lip curl in disgust. No, the actual content of your character doesn't matter a damn. You are a spineless toady and will never be anything more than a spineless toady. Even if you actually aren't a spineless toady, if you try to make a woman happy by giving her what she says she wants, then you are still probably a spineless toady but just don't know it yet. If you try to make accommodations for a woman's well-being, then there is nothing you can do to ever not be a spineless toady. Furthermore, if you don't demonstrate and advertise that you're not a spineless toady, then you are a spineless toady by default. If a woman ever takes advantage of you, then its your fault for being a spineless toady- that is what gave her the green-light to cheat you in the first place.

If you're even suspected of being an AFC, but you're factually not a spineless toady, then you still are one no matter what. And it will always be your unforgivable sin for being that way. So there.

Why was I a spineless toady? Well, being a spineless toady is a cynic's accusations of my actions. And God knows, American women are cynical towards men- they are happily embedded in a man-bashing culture, after all- it's the only way they can feel superior.

I wanted to do things that benefited American women because... I liked doing good things for them and I didn't imagine that they'd be repelled by someone who did stuff like that. I wasn't consciously trying to bribe them with good treatment per sé; I just wanted to be kind, decent and generous because women spend so much time complaining vociferously that they want someone like that in their lives. (Yes, I actually took them seriously when they would talk to me with tears welling-up in their eyes. Silly me for being taken-in by it all. Silly me for ever trusting a female. Silly me for accepting a woman's words at face value. If you ever trust a woman's words, then you probably deserve to get screwed-over by her.)

Yeah, I tried being generous and sensitive to the needs of American women, but I was wrong to do so. I didn't want to imagine that American women were so f'd-up in the head as to be repelled by someone who wanted to treat them well, but I was wrong. I didn't want to think that American women were so f'd-up in the head as to be entirely insincere when voicing what seemed to be their most heartfelt desires for what they yearned in a loving relationship- but I was wrong on that one too. I was wrong about a lot of things. I was wrong because I didn't think that American women were so f'd-up in the head as to be lying through their teeth about what their perfect man would be like. I didn't think that they were so f'd-up in the head as to be attracted to the men who are the exact opposites of what they say they want. I dismissed how f'd-up in the head they might be, simply because I had some respect for them. Silly me.

In fact, I was so wrong about American women because I spent years dismissing a critical factor that shouldn't have been dismissed, namely: that North American women actually are that f'd-up in the head! THEY ARE!

Say it with me: THEY ARE F'D-UP IN THE HEAD!

If a man gives her flowers, then does it mean he's generous or romantically-inclined? NOOOO, it must mean he has a low self-esteem and is trying to bribe her! If a man ever tries to soothe a woman's hurt feelings by offering comfort, does it mean that he cares for her well-being? NOOOO, it's because he's trying to emotionally supplicate his way into bed! If a man returns her phone calls in a timely fashion, does it mean that he shows common courtesy? NOOOO, it's because he is just desperate to get laid! But if a man is cocky, arrogant and ignores her emotions throughout the relationship, then oooh- he is a REAL MAN and he must be slept-with!

I tell you: THOSE are the schizophrenic thought patterns of man-haters who nonetheless get turned-on by the same kind of men that they hate.

All together now: THEY ARE F'D-UP IN THE HEAD!

It doesn't matter how decent or ethical you've been throughout life. It doesn't matter if you're the type of person who always tries his best or wants to treat women in a generous and empathic fashion. It doesn't matter if you believe in charity, mercy, reciprocal giving, putting others before yourself or making special efforts for a woman you care for. It doesn't matter if you want to be honest within a relationship or want to make emotional connections with a woman before you have sex. It doesn't matter a damn because a woman just won't find that behavior sexy and she's too busy thinking with her pussy to ever care about your worth as a human being. In fact, she will consider you lower than shit for all the good things you try to do for her, simply because you swallow her lies and try to accommodate her lies! You need to become a smooth-talking pickup artist, because she won't get nice and wet until you provide whatever her pussy demands. Only then will she have sex with you, compete for your attention and yet complain to others about how awful you are and how you don't meet her emotional needs and how she wants someone more caring in her life. It is the same thick-skulled myopia of someone who wades-through a river of diamonds looking for gold.

One more time: THEY ARE F'D-UP IN THE HEAD!

Ugh, look... if there's one main thing I want my male 'nice guy/AFC' readers back in the 50 states to remember for all time... being generous to American women DOES NOT WORK. IT DOES NOT WORK! IT DOES NOT WORK! IT DOES NOT WORK! ES FUNKTIONIERT NICHT! NÃO FUNCIONA! NE MARCHE PAS! It never has, it never will! BEING GENEROUS TO AMERICAN WOMEN MAKES YOU SEXUALLY-REPELLANT BECAUSE THEY ARE F'D-UP IN THE HEAD!

I have always thought this in my gut, but I'd hoped that I was underestimating them and I'd one day meet a special woman in America who wasn't that way. If such women do exist, they are needles in a massive stack of shit-smelling hay and you'll almost never realistically find one like that. So stop it!

That's right, I said 'stop it'. Stop it, because it just doesn't work.

Stop being 'nice' this instant. Stop it stop it stop it.

Abort. Halt. Cease. Desist. You're guaranteeing your own failure. Abandon what clearly doesn't work: give-up on being 'nice'.

Quit it this second. Wake-up from your dream, you God-damned loser of a 'just friends' DIPSHIT-- IT JUST DOESN'T WORK!!

If you DO try to make an effort to do good things for North American women, then I'll spare you the effort right now-- STOP IT, BECAUSE IT JUST DOESN'T WORK!!

And why doesn't it work, hmm? Well, just in case you missed it: THEY ARE F'D-UP IN THE HEAD!

So stop being a 'nice guy' right now. Stop it stop it stop it stop it stop it stop it stop it stop it stop it stop it stop it stop it stop it!! Okay?

STOP IT! Put down the flowers. Tear-up your laboriously-written love poetry. STOP IT! STOP IT! STOP IT! Stop being mistaken for an unsightly, smarmy, lickspittle supplicating AFC.

Oh, and especially drop the free counseling, too! Don't waste your time. She is lying to you about what she wants in a man. Shove her away and tell her the truth: she is incurably f'd-up in the head, and absolutely NOTHING you or anyone else can do will ever make her one bit less f'd-up in the head.

SO STOP IT, ALREADY!!

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"Sorry. Just having a little trouble, a little trouble at home. A little domestic trouble. Nothing to be alarmed at, just a little...female problem... Ungrateful little BITCHES aren't they? Can I ask you something? You're all church-going folk. I really want to ask you something. Do you think God knew what He was doing when He created...woman? Huh? No shit! I really want to know. Or do you think it was another one of His... minor mistakes like Earthquakes. Tidal waves. Floods! Think women are like that? What's the matter? You don't think God makes mistakes? Course He does. We all make mistakes! Of course when we make mistakes they call it evil! When God makes mistakes they call it nature! So what do you think? Women. A mistake?! Or did He DO IT TO US, ON PURPOSE? Because I really want to know! Because if it's a mistake maybe we can do something about it! Find a cure! Invent a vaccine! Build up our immune system! (Laughing) Get a little exercise! You know, twenty push-ups a day, and you never have to be afflicted with women, EVER AGAIN!" -- Jack Nicholson, as Daryl van Horne, "The Witches of Eastwick".

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